Depression

[Elite]

4 minutes ago, Captain Willard said:

I’m now going to see a female therapist once a week. She’s ok, seems to be making the world a lighter place.  That’s all I want really, to live in the sunlight and not the darkness.  It’s a short life so I don’t want to waste it looking backwards. 

Is she fit?

[Bjornebye]

Tories “mental health is an excuse” 

 

Reality “some of us are quite capable human decent people that might decide that not being under your rule would better” 

 

[Elite]

Willard comes across a sound Tory to be fair, he may walk Boris Johnson's dog but he's got heart.

[Bjornebye]

There are far more nobheads on here than him. 

[Elite]

There you go @Captain Willard say the lads on TLW said you're sound in your next session. She'll no doubt say you're cured.

[Harry's Lad]

2 minutes ago, Elite said:

There you go @Captain Willard say the lads on TLW said you're sound in your next session. She'll no doubt say you're cured.

Now tell us where you hid the bodies.

[Captain Howdy]

On 04/12/2023 at 12:58, Captain Willard said:

I’ve decided to give therapy another go. Want to live in a lighter place and don’t fancy medication. She seems alright so far although it’s not cheap. 

Never understood the concept of therapy, not knocking it like but nobody knows your own mind like yourself and you’re only ever going to reveal what you feel comfortable or choose to reveal. Nobody can tell you why you think or feel a certain way, it’s way too complex, your mind is like a black hole. To each their own though . I’ve never suffered from depression but I did suffer excruciating anxiety many years ago, prescribed beta blockers and life was totally transformed within 24 hours. I’m cleithraphobic and I tried CBT and even hypnotism, complete and utter waste of time and money.

[Elite]

1 minute ago, Captain Howdy said:

Never understood the concept of therapy, not knocking it like but nobody knows your own mind like yourself and you’re only ever going to reveal what you feel comfortable or choose to reveal. Nobody can tell you why you think or feel a certain way, it’s way too complex, your mind is like a black hole. To each their own though . I’ve never suffered from depression but I did suffer excruciating anxiety many years ago, prescribed beta blockers and life was totally transformed within 24 hours. I’m cleithraphobic and I tried CBT and even hypnotism, complete and utter waste of time and money.

Everyone is different and responds to different things. You say you have never had depression, so how can you say therapy doesn't work for someone who does? 

 

It doesn't for me but I'm autistic and 80% think we are living in a simulation. Everyone is different, every person's concept of reality could be unimaginable to others.

 

In short, who the fuck knows what's going on and what works.

[Captain Howdy]

1 minute ago, Elite said:

Everyone is different and responds to different things. You say you have never had depression, so how can you say therapy doesn't work for someone who does? 

 

It doesn't for me but I'm autistic and 80% think we are living in a simulation. Everyone is different, every person's concept of reality could be unimaginable to others.

 

In short, who the fuck knows what's going on and what works.

That was exactly the point I was making, to each their own but I never understood it.

[Creator Supreme]

Just now, Elite said:

Everyone is different and responds to different things. You say you have never had depression, so how can you say therapy doesn't work for someone who does? 

 

It doesn't for me but I'm autistic and 80% think we are living in a simulation. Everyone is different, every person's concept of reality could be unimaginable to others.

 

In short, who the fuck knows what's going on and what works.

Can I ask about your autism mate?

 

My lad and my youngest daughter have both been diagnosed in the last 2 years. My girl isn't too bad, but my lad has no life. He's 19 and I feel like he's never gonna live.

 

What kind of help have you had with your autism? The lad won't engage with anything, meds, therapy etc. He just says nothing will help him and its not worth trying.

 

I'm just looking for any hope.

[Captain Willard]

20 minutes ago, Captain Howdy said:

Never understood the concept of therapy, not knocking it like but nobody knows your own mind like yourself and you’re only ever going to reveal what you feel comfortable or choose to reveal. Nobody can tell you why you think or feel a certain way, it’s way too complex, your mind is like a black hole. To each their own though . I’ve never suffered from depression but I did suffer excruciating anxiety many years ago, prescribed beta blockers and life was totally transformed within 24 hours. I’m cleithraphobic and I tried CBT and even hypnotism, complete and utter waste of time and money.

Glad you’re ok now.
For me it’s just a release, an hour a week to clear a lot of bad stuff out of my head. She doesn’t do much, just listens, asks questions and makes connections. I don’t  know why it works but it seems to make a difference. Mrs Willard says it’s transformational, she says I’m a different person since I’ve started. I dread every session but feel much better on the drive home. It’s the mental health equivalent of going to the gym. 

[Captain Howdy]

13 minutes ago, Captain Willard said:

Glad you’re ok now.
For me it’s just a release, an hour a week to clear a lot of bad stuff out of my head. She doesn’t do much, just listens, asks questions and makes connections. I don’t  know why it works but it seems to make a difference. Mrs Willard says it’s transformational, she says I’m a different person since I’ve started. I dread every session but feel much better on the drive home. It’s the mental health equivalent of going to the gym. 

Good for you 

[Elite]

34 minutes ago, Creator Supreme said:

Can I ask about your autism mate?

 

My lad and my youngest daughter have both been diagnosed in the last 2 years. My girl isn't too bad, but my lad has no life. He's 19 and I feel like he's never gonna live.

 

What kind of help have you had with your autism? The lad won't engage with anything, meds, therapy etc. He just says nothing will help him and its not worth trying.

 

I'm just looking for any hope.

Diagnosed late, which I think has helped in some ways I've had to adapt through life. I'm very good at masking and can generally chameleon my way into most social interactions, etc but find I'm exhausted after it. I'm overstimulated by noise mostly. I live a reasonable normal life and my autism is nowhere as severe as others, I feel like an imposter sometimes when I see others who are further in the spectrum but then I think, i've been assessed by trained professionals who diagnosed me so I must be.

 

As for your son, I really don't know mate as every case is entirely different and the way his brain processes stuff could be alien to me. Maybe, in time he'll find his own way. Just give him space, quiet and don't overload him as that is definitely a trigger.

 

Zero help since diagnosis btw.

[Section_31]

1 hour ago, Elite said:

Is she fit?

I went to see one once and never went back because she looked like Angela Griffin with big tits, you don't need that shit when you're feeling low.

[Captain Howdy]

2 minutes ago, Section_31 said:

I went to see one once and never went back because she looked like Angela Griffin with big tits, you don't need that shit when you're feeling low.

That’s EXACTLY what you need, low, high middle, it matters not man.

[Creator Supreme]

30 minutes ago, Elite said:

Diagnosed late, which I think has helped in some ways I've had to adapt through life. I'm very good at masking and can generally chameleon my way into most social interactions, etc but find I'm exhausted after it. I'm overstimulated by noise mostly. I live a reasonable normal life and my autism is nowhere as severe as others, I feel like an imposter sometimes when I see others who are further in the spectrum but then I think, i've been assessed by trained professionals who diagnosed me so I must be.

 

As for your son, I really don't know mate as every case is entirely different and the way his brain processes stuff could be alien to me. Maybe, in time he'll find his own way. Just give him space, quiet and don't overload him as that is definitely a trigger.

 

Zero help since diagnosis btw.

Cheers, he was diagnosed when he was 16, and hadn't really shown signs until his teens.

 

By the time we realised what the signs were, he'd fucked school off and now seems to have fucked life off.

 

It gets me down because I wasted my teens and twenties being a miserable arse until I met the missus. I don't want to see him miss out in the same way.

 

I think I'll take your advice about giving him space, maybe one day he'll be mature enough and ready enough to make changes and accept help if it's offered.

[redinblack]

2 hours ago, Captain Willard said:

I’m now going to see a female therapist once a week. She’s ok, seems to be making the world a lighter place.  That’s all I want really, to live in the sunlight and not the darkness.  It’s a short life so I don’t want to waste it looking backwards. 

I went to see Adrian Edmondson recently and he talked about "the white noise in his head". That's me that is, it darkens the room. I've found cutting alcohol helps  I dont get the mood swings, and I'm much more on a level. I do struggle to talk to people, but well done you.

[littletedwest]

13 hours ago, Elite said:

Willard comes across a sound Tory to be fair, he may walk Boris Johnson's dog but he's got heart.

I credit him with introducing fleas to liz Truss

[Captain Willard]

1 hour ago, littletedwest said:

I credit him with introducing fleas to liz Truss

Ha ha. I’ve met them both and I’d say she’s the weirdest. 

[Champ]

21 hours ago, Creator Supreme said:

Can I ask about your autism mate?

 

My lad and my youngest daughter have both been diagnosed in the last 2 years. My girl isn't too bad, but my lad has no life. He's 19 and I feel like he's never gonna live.

 

What kind of help have you had with your autism? The lad won't engage with anything, meds, therapy etc. He just says nothing will help him and its not worth trying.

 

I'm just looking for any hope.

Have either you or their mother been assessed at all?

[Creator Supreme]

24 minutes ago, Champ said:

Have either you or their mother been assessed at all?

No Cath, neither of us have.

 

I'll be honest if there's a chance of me or the missus being autistic too, it's most likely to be me.

[Champ]

26 minutes ago, Creator Supreme said:

No Cath, neither of us have.

 

I'll be honest if there's a chance of me or the missus being autistic too, it's most likely to be me.

We were talking about it at work again today; questioning why it had taken so long for us to see the generational link for young people being assessed to have ASD/ADHD

[Creator Supreme]

1 minute ago, Champ said:

We were talking about it at work again today; questioning why it had taken so long for us to see the generational link for young people being assessed to have ASD/ADHD

The lad didn't start properly showing signs until he was in his teens to be honest Cath.

 

Thing is our experience with him helped us when getting our youngest diagnosed, we noticed the signs quicker.

[Champ]

1 minute ago, Creator Supreme said:

The lad didn't start properly showing signs until he was in his teens to be honest Cath.

 

Thing is our experience with him helped us when getting our youngest diagnosed, we noticed the signs quicker.

Could it be that they were there all along but they were attributed to other things, like his personality and a general lack of awareness of neurodiversity 

[Creator Supreme]

3 minutes ago, Champ said:

Could it be that they were there all along but they were attributed to other things, like his personality and a general lack of awareness of neurodiversity 

Every chance that is the case, but up until he was well into secondary school he seemed like a normal (bad word I know) well adjusted happy kid.

 

He's fallen off a cliff the last few years, and it breaks me.