Depression

[Bjornebye]

I've just been sat here watching the Ronnie O'Sullivan documentary and thought...

 

You leave school and unless you're a very clever bastard you end up pissing up with work mates/uni mates whatever. All of a sudden you find yourself. You're drinking etc with them yeah this is great. All the while your years are passing on and you get addicted to either being out doing that or searching for them highs. 

 

Then you get older but you still think you can reach them highs going out. Go out with mates, same laughs etc but some get kids, wives the whole shit. 

 

But the reality is you're masking something, I personally would hate to know who I am underneath. I can go a while without a drink and my bird always says "see you're fucking great" or something along them lines because I've fixed the roof or some shit. But it's not enjoyable. 

 

Then you realise you don't really wanna see your mates sober. 

 

Then you're alone. 

[Red74]

On 14/11/2023 at 00:23, Creator Supreme said:

Had some time off work recently, planned annual leave but well timed as it turned out.

 

A few days before I'd been to my GP again. I'd had a headache for weeks, thought it was my BP which can go up at times and it was raised when I got it checked.

 

As well as the headache though I'd been letting things get on top of me again. Work mostly, but some personal stuff too.

 

When I spoke to the quack he confirmed that all the symptoms including the headache and the raised BP are all anxiety and stress related. Offered me talking therapy and a sick note, both of which I refused. Asked me to come back in for a review when I returned to work.

 

I saw him on Thursday, the day after I'd gone back to work. Told him I felt OK, and that the time off had done me good, and that was the truth at that time. We agreed to leave it there with the proviso that I could go back and ask for the sicknote and talking therapy if I needed it.

 

Problem now is, less than a week later, all the stresses and stressors are back, the headache is back, and I feel like shit. But I can't ask for the sicknote. I'd be giving in, and I'd be letting too many people down. But I also don't think I can face work tomorrow.

 

Hence I'm typing this pile of babbling bullshit after midnight. I'd love some time away from my brain. My usual coping methods seem to have deserted me too.

 

Please let this insanity end soon, I'm sick of not being able to sleep properly, not being able to face exercise, eating poorly, snapping at the wife and kids (although they don't make things easy, kids especially), and just generally feeling like I'm failing at life.

 

If the insanity ends, I can stop boring the shit out of you lot too.

Take the sick note and get away from the job until you feel like you miss it. Sounds like this is what’s making you ill. Spend time building bridges with your family instead, esp with Xmas approaching. Do silly things like putting the deccies up together and watching films and playing games. Get the home right and the rest will fall into place. 
 

Believe me, there is no job on earth that gives a shit about you, no matter how good you are to them. Look after number 1 and your family first. 

[Creator Supreme]

6 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

I've just been sat here watching the Ronnie O'Sullivan documentary and thought...

 

You leave school and unless you're a very clever bastard you end up pissing up with work mates/uni mates whatever. All of a sudden you find yourself. You're drinking etc with them yeah this is great. All the while your years are passing on and you get addicted to either being out doing that or searching for them highs. 

 

Then you get older but you still think you can reach them highs going out. Go out with mates, same laughs etc but some get kids, wives the whole shit. 

 

But the reality is you're masking something, I personally would hate to know who I am underneath. I can go a while without a drink and my bird always says "see you're fucking great" or something along them lines because I've fixed the roof or some shit. But it's not enjoyable. 

 

Then you realise you don't really wanna see your mates sober. 

 

Then you're alone. 

Fucking hell kidda. Go and give your missus a hug, then when your GP Surgery is open book an appointment. It sounds like you could do with some counselling.

 

Stay safe mate.

[Captain Turdseye]

7 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

I've just been sat here watching the Ronnie O'Sullivan documentary and thought...

 

You leave school and unless you're a very clever bastard you end up pissing up with work mates/uni mates whatever. All of a sudden you find yourself. You're drinking etc with them yeah this is great. All the while your years are passing on and you get addicted to either being out doing that or searching for them highs. 

 

Then you get older but you still think you can reach them highs going out. Go out with mates, same laughs etc but some get kids, wives the whole shit. 

 

But the reality is you're masking something, I personally would hate to know who I am underneath. I can go a while without a drink and my bird always says "see you're fucking great" or something along them lines because I've fixed the roof or some shit. But it's not enjoyable. 

 

Then you realise you don't really wanna see your mates sober. 

 

Then you're alone. 

 

Sounds like that Tom Hanks talk you went to has got you down a bit. Just get a Wilson, mate. 
 

[Fowlers God]

9 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

I've just been sat here watching the Ronnie O'Sullivan documentary and thought...

 

You leave school and unless you're a very clever bastard you end up pissing up with work mates/uni mates whatever. All of a sudden you find yourself. You're drinking etc with them yeah this is great. All the while your years are passing on and you get addicted to either being out doing that or searching for them highs. 

 

Then you get older but you still think you can reach them highs going out. Go out with mates, same laughs etc but some get kids, wives the whole shit. 

 

But the reality is you're masking something, I personally would hate to know who I am underneath. I can go a while without a drink and my bird always says "see you're fucking great" or something along them lines because I've fixed the roof or some shit. But it's not enjoyable. 

 

Then you realise you don't really wanna see your mates sober. 

 

Then you're alone. 

 

this hits hard. 

[Captain Turdseye]

 

[Elite]

4 minutes ago, Captain Turdseye said:

 

Love that song. Used to listen to at the end of a run, gave me that final push in the last 10 metres of a 50 metre jog.

[Guest]

10 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

I've just been sat here watching the Ronnie O'Sullivan documentary and thought...

 

You leave school and unless you're a very clever bastard you end up pissing up with work mates/uni mates whatever. All of a sudden you find yourself. You're drinking etc with them yeah this is great. All the while your years are passing on and you get addicted to either being out doing that or searching for them highs. 

 

Then you get older but you still think you can reach them highs going out. Go out with mates, same laughs etc but some get kids, wives the whole shit. 

 

But the reality is you're masking something, I personally would hate to know who I am underneath. I can go a while without a drink and my bird always says "see you're fucking great" or something along them lines because I've fixed the roof or some shit. But it's not enjoyable. 

 

Then you realise you don't really wanna see your mates sober. 

 

Then you're alone. 

 

 

Love how this guy presents things. Watched one yesterday about being lost in life as being an amazing place to be. If you are not lost,you're chained.

 

No wonder The Beatles went down the meditation/Indian preaching route.

[redinblack]

56 minutes ago, Shooter in the Motor said:

 

 

Love how this guy presents things. Watched one yesterday about being lost in life as being an amazing place to be. If you are not lost,you're chained.

 

No wonder The Beatles went down the meditation/Indian preaching route.

Theres a difference between "alone" and "lonely". I dont mind alone, and often am as I can deal with the white noise. But I'm never lonely, especially if I have a book, and I'm quite fortunate in that respect I guess. It doesnt work that way for a lot of people.

[Ezekiel 25:17]

As terrible as depression is, and it's fucking terrible, along with Anxiety, they're not terminal, no matter how bad your feeling you have to force yourself to get some kind of comfort from the fact it can change and usually with time and support, whether that be pharmaceutical or emotional it will.

 

 

I've suffered anxiety several times and I make this remark every time, the most horrible aspect of it is you can only really reflect on it and think about the appropriate actions you should take once it's eventually passed. Depression and anxiety are cunts for only really knowing you were really suffering once you stop suffering.

 

 

Rambling a bit here, I hope you all get the support you need.

[3 Stacks]

An issue with depression and anxiety is, beyond the mental toll, you just don't know or even realize how hard this can be on the body. It's probably a cause of all sorts of ailments.

 

Like, you wonder why certain people die or live to a certain age, and it could very well be that a big factor in living a long time is someone's perception of stress and being the sort of person whose brain doesn't let it become anxiety/depression.

[A Red]

Saw this in our local medical centre the other day, I would have thought it is relevant throughout the NHS 

 

[Section_31]

57 minutes ago, 3 Stacks said:

An issue with depression and anxiety is, beyond the mental toll, you just don't know or even realize how hard this can be on the body. It's probably a cause of all sorts of ailments.

 

Like, you wonder why certain people die or live to a certain age, and it could very well be that a big factor in living a long time is someone's perception of stress and being the sort of person whose brain doesn't let it become anxiety/depression.

 

Yeah my anxiety is mostly physical, wouldn't wish it on any one.

 

Apparently a lot of military and emergency service people get a lot of health problems when they're older because their body is in such a constant state of flight or fight. Anxiety does the same thing to a brother.

[YorkshireRed]

I’ve suffered with depression and anxiety all my adult life.
 

Mostly it’s been the depression that’s ruled my fucked up roost.

Over the last year or so, however, it’s been the anxiety that’s causing me the most agony (believe me, agony is not understating it).

 

Not currently on any prescribed medication, or undergoing any therapy. Been on the lot, done the lot, over the years.

 

What I really should be doing is swimming more, it helps more than anything else. What I am doing is suffering panic attacks in the middle of the night and munching cbd gummies before I get out of bed. Gummies that probably don’t do that much but I tell myself they do. 
 

Anxiety is a right cunt. 
 

Love, as always, to all those struggling with whatever they’re struggling with. 

[Captain Turdseye]

You all need to just smoke a little weed from time to time, man. 
 

 

Probably better for any physical ailments than Indian preachers on YouTube as well, I reckon. 

[Elite]

Y'all need to get into that Buddhist/Hindu shit Shooter keeps posting.

[TheHowieLama]

[ZonkoVille77]

Might have mentioned it before on here but the combination of talking more openly to family/friends, taking extra B vitamins/Vit D/Magnesium and reading this book a couple of times really sorted me out. Realise that doesn't help everyone but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 

Anxiety Rx by Russell Kennedy 

 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Anxiety-Rx-Prescription-Relief-Created/dp/B09DRC2MG1/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2YHJW9P0EAF85&keywords=anxiety+rx+russell+kennedy+book&qid=1701473236&sprefix=anxiety+rx%2Caps%2C88&sr=8-1

 

 

[Section_31]

14 hours ago, ZonkoVille77 said:

Might have mentioned it before on here but the combination of talking more openly to family/friends, taking extra B vitamins/Vit D/Magnesium and reading this book a couple of times really sorted me out. Realise that doesn't help everyone but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 

Anxiety Rx by Russell Kennedy 

 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Anxiety-Rx-Prescription-Relief-Created/dp/B09DRC2MG1/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2YHJW9P0EAF85&keywords=anxiety+rx+russell+kennedy+book&qid=1701473236&sprefix=anxiety+rx%2Caps%2C88&sr=8-1

 

 

 

Which make of vitamins to you use mate? Is it separate supplies or do you get multi vitamins.

 

Thank I might take this route and come off my anxiety meds after speaking to the quack.

[ZonkoVille77]

23 minutes ago, Section_31 said:

 

Which make of vitamins to you use mate? Is it separate supplies or do you get multi vitamins.

 

Thank I might take this route and come off my anxiety meds after speaking to the quack.

 

I started out using generic Holland and Barrett brand but got a few side effects like cramps etc. So moved to Solgar which are much better but can be pricy. I used to use separate B6 and B12 vitamins but moved to a B Complex which has everything. I take Vit D every day and the B Complex and Magnesium every other day. Don't really need them wvery day and it can be easy to overdo it. It's obviously better to get these essential vitamins via diet but it's not easy in the modern world. I can't emphasise enough the importance of keeping mobile and busy. Walk every day for at least 30mins at a decent pace, ideally in a park. Great for the head.

 

https://www.hollandandbarrett.com/the-health-hub/vitamins-and-supplements/vitamins/vitamin-b/vitamin-b6-anxiety-and-depression/

 

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/depression-and-vitamin-d#connection

 

https://www.healthline.com/health/magnesium-anxiety#which-magnesium

 

 

 

 

[elvis]

2 hours ago, ZonkoVille77 said:

 

I started out using generic Holland and Barrett brand but got a few side effects like cramps etc. So moved to Solgar which are much better but can be pricy. I used to use separate B6 and B12 vitamins but moved to a B Complex which has everything. I take Vit D every day and the B Complex and Magnesium every other day. Don't really need them wvery day and it can be easy to overdo it. It's obviously better to get these essential vitamins via diet but it's not easy in the modern world. I can't emphasise enough the importance of keeping mobile and busy. Walk every day for at least 30mins at a decent pace, ideally in a park. Great for the head.

 

https://www.hollandandbarrett.com/the-health-hub/vitamins-and-supplements/vitamins/vitamin-b/vitamin-b6-anxiety-and-depression/

 

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/depression-and-vitamin-d#connection

 

https://www.healthline.com/health/magnesium-anxiety#which-magnesium

 

 

 

 

I was chatting to a cardiologist and she was emphatic in recommending magnesium for all kinds of things , from palpitations/heart rhythm to improved sleep. 

[Guest]

22 hours ago, Elite said:

Y'all need to get into that Buddhist/Hindu shit Shooter keeps posting.

It was meant for Stig but then you knew that. It's not Buddhist Hindu shit but why would you know that.

[TheSire]

1 hour ago, elvis said:

I was chatting to a cardiologist and she was emphatic in recommending magnesium for all kinds of things , from palpitations/heart rhythm to improved sleep. 

Yep, it has the effect of calming the body and we're all pretty heavily deficient in our intake too. The better form is magnesium biglycinate taken before bed ideally. Zinc taken with it is very good for sleep, it won't knock you out but you do notice a mild sense of physical relaxation. 

[Elite]

28 minutes ago, Shooter in the Motor said:

It was meant for Stig but then you knew that. It's not Buddhist Hindu shit but why would you know that.

Go and spam the forum more, you boring twat.

[Guest]

9 minutes ago, Elite said:

Go and spam the forum more, you boring twat.

OK point taken. My time here is done. Not paid to be here for a while for a reason and now is the time.

 

Best Wishes all. Genuinely wish you all the best.