Breaking up with someone

[Nantwich girl]

Been going out with my bf for several months now and initially he seemed great, but as time has gone on I've sort of lost interest in him. He's a really nice bloke but I've decided it's over for me. I have a horrible feeling he is going to ask me to get engaged to him on my 30th birthday next month. Dilemma is my dad has paid for us both to go to New York staying in a really nice hotel, my birthday is during our stay. Do I tell him before and ruin the trip for him (he's never been to NYC and he's been really excited about going) however it would save him the embarrassment of me not accepting his proposal! or tell him when we get home?

[Rico1304]

Tell him before you go, it's just not fair to mess with his emotions like that. Just say you could never marry someone whose dick is smaller than yours.

[Colonol]

Just somehow drop it into a conversation that you have no interest in getting married.You may have to watch something together that will allow you ease it into a conversation or just tell him one of your old school mates is getting married and then say I am not ready for that just yet. Tell him everything is good with you and him etc and no need to rock the boat. After the holiday then finish it.

[Nantwich girl]

Just somehow drop it into a conversation that you have no interest in getting married.You may have to watch something together that will allow you ease it into a conversation or just tell him one of your old school mates is getting married and then say I am not ready for that just yet. Tell him everything is good with you and him etc and no need to rock the boat. After the holiday then finish it.

 

That's really good! One of my friends is getting married in September so that could work! Plus he gets to enjoy the holiday!

[Fowlers God]

If you sleep with him though you are in a sense a whore. Paid holiday, Sex.... People would talk about you.

[Paulie Dangerously]

One of my exes broke up with me when we were on Holiday in italy and I flew home early. Tell him before hand

[Nantwich girl]

One of my exes broke up with me when we were on Holiday in italy and I flew home early. Tell him before hand

 

Really? I was going to go withbthe colonels suggestion of dropping a few big hints about not wanting to get married etc and hope he picks up on it. Thing is he is really excited about the trip and I don't want him not to go he's been telling everybody and I mean everybody! about how much he is looking forward to it. Arrggghhh my head is in the shed over this :-(

[Guest davelfc]

Show him where you tuck your cock away, he will be out of the door in seconds.

 

Failing that, just act like a woman and fuck with his head for a while just to make yourself feel less guilty.

[Nantwich girl]

Show him where you tuck your cock away, he will be out of the door in seconds.

 

Failing that, just act like a woman and fuck with his head for a while just to make yourself feel less guilty.

 

Ooooh the ramblings of a bitter man. No doubt back living with mum in your old bedroom after your wife took everything including the kids. Maybe you shouldn't have been looking at that speciality Internet porn and shed still be with you. Nah she's a fffffucckkin bitch you're well rid of her. Have another pot noodle and a wank you'll be fine. :-)

[Fowlers God]

Wonders why everyone has to be so abusive?

[Guest Slim(fast)Shady]

Just tell him straight...be gutted for a bit but hey....life is short!

 

DON'T DO ANYTHING BY TEXT!

 

Nowt lower than that in my opinion however you don't sound that type to me anyway!

[Nantwich girl]

Wonders why everyone has to be so abusive?

 

Ha ha abusive? How can you take offense about being told you have a penis by a stranger you have never even met? Lady gaga has made a career out of it! Sometimes the mischievous side of me snaps back but it's all a bit of nonsense really!

[Guest davelfc]

Ooooh the ramblings of a bitter man. No doubt back living with mum in your old bedroom after your wife took everything including the kids. Maybe you shouldn't have been looking at that speciality Internet porn and shed still be with you. Nah she's a fffffucckkin bitch you're well rid of her. Have another pot noodle and a wank you'll be fine. :-)

 

Hardly, she's been dead over 30 years. Yes I split with my lunatic ex but I have three wonderful kids who are not so much kids as young adults and spent the day with them all yesterday, they get on with me much better than their mother.

 

Pot noodle, ha! I was eating steak in Sao Paulo a few weeks ago, that reminds me my passport is three years old and almost full. What a shit life I have.

 

I must have hit a nerve with your penis tuck, or is it the head fuck? You're leading on a man you know you don't want to be with in order to get a nice holiday, you're pretty much a slapper mate. A slapper with a cock as well.

[Nantwich girl]

Just tell him straight...be gutted for a bit but hey....life is short!

 

DON'T DO ANYTHING BY TEXT!

 

Nowt lower than that in my opinion however you don't sound that type to me anyway!

 

Youreright I would never do that! I think you need to look somebody in the eyes when you tell them it's over. Texting somethin like that is poor form. As I said he's a really nice bloke I don't want to hurt him but I suppose I will have to at some point :-(

[Chairman Meow]

[Guest Slim(fast)Shady]

Pity you canny exchange the romantic holiday to NY....for a week of lunacy in Ibiza really...

 

Maybe a solution...p'raps!

 

But be lucky

[Guest ShoePiss]

Tell him it's over and let him know he can still go on the trip and can take a mate of his in your place.

[Nantwich girl]

Pity you canny exchange the romantic holiday to NY....for a week of lunacy in Ibiza really...

 

Maybe a solution...p'raps!

 

But be lucky

 

Nice idea but I love NYC more!!

 

Thanks anyway

[Guest davelfc]

Tell him it's over and let him know he can still go on the trip and can take a mate of his in your place.

 

You're thinking like a bloke there mate, try to think more selfish and 'me me me' and you might get closer.

[Nantwich girl]

Hardly, she's been dead over 30 years. Yes I split with my lunatic ex but I have three wonderful kids who are not so much kids as young adults and spent the day with them all yesterday, they get on with me much better than their mother.

 

Pot noodle, ha! I was eating steak in Sao Paulo a few weeks ago, that reminds me my passport is three years old and almost full. What a shit life I have.

 

I must have hit a nerve with your penis tuck, or is it the head fuck? You're leading on a man you know you don't want to be with in order to get a nice holiday, you're pretty much a slapper mate. A slapper with a cock as well.

 

Oiooihhhhh get you! All riled up and defensive. Get a sense of humor. If you can't take a bit of ribbing don't dish it out in the first place!

[Nantwich girl]

Tell him it's over and let him know he can still go on the trip and can take a mate of his in your place.

 

It's my birthday present from my dad!!!!!!

[Uncle_Meat]

Apparently NYC has some of the best, most compliant, whores in the world.

 

Get him pissed, get him a whore, and the rest will take care of itself.

[Guest davelfc]

So your solution so far is to announce it to the internet but keep it from him until you've had your little holiday?

 

He will be well rid of you.

[Antynwa]

He doesn't deserve you

[Red Banjo]

I remember having sex with an ex after i'd decided to finish with her, but before we went away for a holiday to New York we'd had planned. I still laugh to myself about the faces i was pulling into the pillow as i was pounding away that night. I couldn't think of anywhere i'd rather not have been, but didn't want to appear off so just carried on as normal thinking i might change my mind. I didn't. But sex is sex, and if someone is begging to swallow your muck - who am i to deny?. After that i decided to fuck her off. And good god she went nuts. It wasn't pretty, but it was necessary.

 

I lost my £300 deposit but the idea of going on holiday, and having to share a bed with someone i didn't even like was not even an option. Even though i'd never been to New York.

 

This scenario is very similar to yours, except i lost money and yours is paid. And it appears although my morals are quite low, you don't have any at all.