Todays Daily Telegraph

[fobbierowler]

Any got the Fantast Football password for today?

[Kevin D]

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/relationships/husband-ogles-younger-women/
 

We are about to go on holiday but while I should be excited, I am dreading it. My husband and I are in our early 60s and have been married for 30 years. We’ve had a very happy marriage and as far as I know he has never been unfaithful, but he has always had a wandering eye – and it’s getting worse in his old age.

 

Whenever we go on holiday, he openly ogles women around the pool. He actually gapes and stares, turning his head as women walk by in their swimwear. While I might have been jealous 30 years ago, now it just makes me feel horribly embarrassed for him. I think it makes him look a fool.

 

He does this every time we go on holiday.

But he also does it on the street. If we go shopping and young women walk by, he cranes his head to watch them. To make matters worse, we have a lovely 27-year-old daughter who we sometimes meet with her friends because she shares a flat with them.

My husband even ogles these girls, which I find cringe-worthy and incredibly uncomfortable.

 

I have avoided meeting her on occasions when her friends might be present, simply because I feel so embarrassed by his behaviour.

The truth is, though, I honestly don’t think he knows he is doing it. And even stranger, his behaviour doesn’t match his “drive” behind closed doors. He has little interest in our love life. We have not been intimate for a few years now and he does not seem to show interest in that side of our marriage.

 

I have always kept myself fit and slim, do yoga and Pilates, and people tell me I look younger than I am. Yet he rarely makes advances towards me despite seeming so interested in women who are 20 years younger.

 

So if this side of marriage is not important to him, why is he so obviously staring at other women? There are laws against this kind of thing these days – quite rightly, too – and I’m worried that he might fall foul of them.

 

I’ve asked married friends of my age with similar-aged husbands. Some say it’s normal and “men are men” no matter their age.

 

Others say their men don’t do it – or at least not so obviously. Another friend said she simply would not tolerate it and told me to have it out with my husband or even leave him. But I hate confrontation and I have never felt able to mention it.

 

On one summer holiday last year a young woman was readjusting her bikini on a sun lounger near to ours and my husband actually craned his neck to watch her – I’m sure the young woman’s partner saw him looking. I blushed and had to walk away and pretend I was getting a coffee because I was so ashamed.

 

I know I could sit and talk to him about it. But I’ve never actually confronted him because I don’t want to embarrass him or cause a row. I also can’t stand the idea of such a silly “jealous” argument when I truly do not feel jealous.

We get on very well in every other aspect of our marriage; we share the same sense of humour, beliefs and attitudes to life. He’s kind, helps around the house and has always been a wonderful provider financially. In every other respect than this he has always been a perfect gentleman.

 

He’s someone I am happy to grow into old age with. I certainly wouldn’t consider risking our marriage over this. But this gawping at younger women gets on my nerves – and might get him into big trouble.

[razor]

30 years of marriage and she can't muster a "Please stop staring at women, it's insulting and embarrassing."

 

I'm torn between thinking it's made up and absolute pity.

 

The Daily Telegraph in a nutshell.

[Captain Turdseye]

He’s kept her right in her place. Good luck to him. 

[No2]

He sounds like a Tory.

[SasaS]

There are laws against looking at women in the street?

[sir roger]

She could buy him sunglasses

[Section_31]

9 minutes ago, sir roger said:

She could buy him sunglasses

Amateur hour from this guy. 

 

Us middle aged fellas make Jason Bourne look shit.

 

Reflections in shop windows, sunglasses, gym mirrors. 

 

This guy clearly just hates his wife which is why he's being so overt.

[Trumo]

 

[Kevin D]

[Captain Howdy]

48 minutes ago, SasaS said:

There are laws against looking at women in the street?

We’re getting there 

[Dr Nowt]

2 hours ago, Kevin D said:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/relationships/husband-ogles-younger-women/
 

We are about to go on holiday but while I should be excited, I am dreading it. My husband and I are in our early 60s and have been married for 30 years. We’ve had a very happy marriage and as far as I know he has never been unfaithful, but he has always had a wandering eye – and it’s getting worse in his old age.

 

Whenever we go on holiday, he openly ogles women around the pool. He actually gapes and stares, turning his head as women walk by in their swimwear. While I might have been jealous 30 years ago, now it just makes me feel horribly embarrassed for him. I think it makes him look a fool.

 

He does this every time we go on holiday.

But he also does it on the street. If we go shopping and young women walk by, he cranes his head to watch them. To make matters worse, we have a lovely 27-year-old daughter who we sometimes meet with her friends because she shares a flat with them.

My husband even ogles these girls, which I find cringe-worthy and incredibly uncomfortable.

 

I have avoided meeting her on occasions when her friends might be present, simply because I feel so embarrassed by his behaviour.

The truth is, though, I honestly don’t think he knows he is doing it. And even stranger, his behaviour doesn’t match his “drive” behind closed doors. He has little interest in our love life. We have not been intimate for a few years now and he does not seem to show interest in that side of our marriage.

 

I have always kept myself fit and slim, do yoga and Pilates, and people tell me I look younger than I am. Yet he rarely makes advances towards me despite seeming so interested in women who are 20 years younger.

 

So if this side of marriage is not important to him, why is he so obviously staring at other women? There are laws against this kind of thing these days – quite rightly, too – and I’m worried that he might fall foul of them.

 

I’ve asked married friends of my age with similar-aged husbands. Some say it’s normal and “men are men” no matter their age.

 

Others say their men don’t do it – or at least not so obviously. Another friend said she simply would not tolerate it and told me to have it out with my husband or even leave him. But I hate confrontation and I have never felt able to mention it.

 

On one summer holiday last year a young woman was readjusting her bikini on a sun lounger near to ours and my husband actually craned his neck to watch her – I’m sure the young woman’s partner saw him looking. I blushed and had to walk away and pretend I was getting a coffee because I was so ashamed.

 

I know I could sit and talk to him about it. But I’ve never actually confronted him because I don’t want to embarrass him or cause a row. I also can’t stand the idea of such a silly “jealous” argument when I truly do not feel jealous.

We get on very well in every other aspect of our marriage; we share the same sense of humour, beliefs and attitudes to life. He’s kind, helps around the house and has always been a wonderful provider financially. In every other respect than this he has always been a perfect gentleman.

 

He’s someone I am happy to grow into old age with. I certainly wouldn’t consider risking our marriage over this. But this gawping at younger women gets on my nerves – and might get him into big trouble.

I was in Dubai about ten years ago when a Russian woman started elaborately posing for holiday snaps round the pool with one of the most impossibly nice arses I’ve ever seen, in a string bikini. The only reasonable course of action was to surreptitiously pick up my then girlfriend’s phone and take a picture of it. I forgot all about it until she came across said photo when we were back home. We had a good laugh about it, though, puzzlingly, our relationship didn’t last the course.

[Dr Nowt]

I felt a bit ashamed posting that.

[Dr Nowt]

Dubai. What was I fucking thinking.

[VladimirIlyich]

49 minutes ago, Captain Howdy said:

We’re getting there 

How will you know their gender? You wont be able to ask.

[Captain Howdy]

3 minutes ago, VladimirIlyich said:

How will you know their gender? You wont be able to ask.

I wouldn’t dare. Wolf whistling will see you in court now according to the CPS. Thank God I’m old. 

[VladimirIlyich]

48 minutes ago, Dr Nowt said:

I felt a bit ashamed posting that.

The shame should be from not saving the photo.

[Rushies tash]

1 hour ago, Dr Nowt said:

I was in Dubai about ten years ago when a Russian woman started elaborately posing for holiday snaps round the pool with one of the most impossibly nice arses I’ve ever seen, in a string bikini. The only reasonable course of action was to surreptitiously pick up my then girlfriend’s phone and take a picture of it. I forgot all about it until she came across said photo when we were back home. We had a good laugh about it, though, puzzlingly, our relationship didn’t last the course.

Fortunately for me, Mrs Tash would've (and indeed has) simply said "she's got a cracking arse hasn't she?". I'd have got chinned if I took a picture of it though.

[Guest]

Has she thought about buying him some white trousers; flappy collared shirts with buttons missing, a bottle of Brut and a gold medallion on a chain?

[Anubis]

8 hours ago, Dr Nowt said:

Dubai. What was I fucking thinking.

You were clearly thinking that you’d use your girlfriend’s phone so that if the authorities were called you could blame her and she’d take the jail time.

 

As for the whole Agony Ain’t issue, which is clearly Kev D seeking advice and pretending its the Telegraph, just use your Pilates-honed body to get shagged by someone else and leave your husband to it, Kev.