Interesting one here. Met a girl who grew up in Ghana but lived here in NY. Lovely girl, had a little bit of chinese mixed in, really beautiful. Quiet and humble, totally my type. Went on a few dates with her, the second one was a daylong excursion to the beach, just us two. Lots of talking.
She had mentioned that she goes to church a few times so I probed a bit deeper, eventually getting to the critical question: whats your stance on premarital sex? Nope, not an option. That stumped me for a bit. But the conversation recovered and we were having a great time. She was getting quite close, playing with my hair, etc, so I went for a kiss. It seemed pretty natural. Nope, she doesnt want to kiss. Fleshy desires and all that. Happy to indulge in a little cheek pecking. Mind you this is the second date and we are both around 25. That stumped me again.
More things came up. Every time I cursed in the course of normal conversation it would bother her. Slowly I saw how under that quiet demeanor she was in fact passing harsh christian judgement on just about everything. It bummed me out. By evening I was glad when she left.
The next day I wrote her saying it wouldnt work out, sorry. Bit disappointed in myself, she seemed so promising. Is there any way this could have worked? Can you really get along with a deeply christian girl? Was I just reacting to the possibility of a bleak sexless future?