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Do you have any? If so, are you arsed? Just watching some bollocks where they reunite long lost family and some bloke is looking for his dad, emotions run wild etc. My old fella walked out on us when I was two. I've met him once when I was 17 at my granddad's funeral, was introduced by my uncle 'this is your dad', to which I said 'alright mate' and shook his hand. My only real thoughts and feelings at the time concerned the fact he looked like Kevin Woodford, celebrity chef and resident of the Isle of Man. I saw him once after that when my aunty ambushed me with him while I was visiting her, she phoned him from upstairs and he popped around with an art book (I told him I 'liked drawing') never seen him since, I'm 31 now and couldn't care less. I've no great desire to find him or ever see him again, but nor do I dislike him, he's like some distant country I'll never visit but don't really care about either - like Peru or Albania. Thing is, I've always gotten the impression from these shows, from people who've been adopted, and even from the 'chats' people have had with me down the years that this is somehow odd? I've had teachers sit me down and tell me 'how much my mum loves me' etc while I've just been sat there playing with my Rock Lords. And even know, some bird I know is endlessly freaked out by the fact I've never basically had a dad (I consider my mum's dad, my granddad, to have been my father in all but name, even though I've had a step dad since I was seven, largely useless, only just feeling guilty about that fact now - but too late). I've always been made to feel that either I should (a) want to find him and know him or (b) that it would be 'normal' to resent and hate him. When in actual fact neither holds any appeal.