Cancer

[Harry's Lad]

1 minute ago, Bjornebye said:

Thanks mate. Means a lot x sorry about what you went through. 
 

Just come out to the garden for some fresh air. Morbid in there. Everyone half in silence then making silly small talk. I’m gonna throw ac/dc on and start spraying ale everywhere in a minute. 
 

I’ve just hung the washing out for them and was ha hung up a pair of my mums pyjamas and it kind of hit me then. Had to fight back a bit because I’m the eldest too and don’t want anyone seeing me weak because people are in the verge of breaking down. 
 

She’s not in pain apparently. Nurses have not long gone so she is all morphined up. I’m using this as a sounding board so sorry if I’m being drippy. 

You're not being drippy at all.

 

It's a traumatic time and one of the most stressful things you can experience. 

 

I was the same, I didn't want anybody seeing me being what I thought was weak either, nor does anybody else.

I was probably too stoic for my own good because months later it bit me on the arse and I was a bit of a mess for a while.

 

Like I said in my previous post, there is no right way or wrong way in this situation, all the people in your family will be feeling the same way.

 

Say what you need to say to her, that's  important and be there for her, she'll probably appreciate it more than she lets on but when you need time, take it.

 

I really wish I'd used this forum back then, there's some really good people on here who are there when you need them.

 

But you already know that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Bjornebye]

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

[KMD7]

1 minute ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

Fucking hell mate. I'm very sorry for your loss and look after yourself.  Like you say she's not in pain anymore. Mind yourself.

[YorkshireRed]

8 minutes ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

Very sorry to hear this, deepest sympathy to you and all your family. She may not be in any pain anymore but you’ve just lost your mum so make sure to recognise and accept your pain during these difficult times. It will be better in the long run. Horrible times, I know, don’t really have the words but sending you love anyway (for what that’s worth from an Internet stranger).

[Harry's Lad]

20 minutes ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

I'm sorry for your loss Mate.

[littletedwest]

Sorry for your loss mate. It's a traumatic time. When my dad died I was OK one minute then a wreck a minute later so the grief can be sort of delayed.

I remember people saying you never get over it, I didn't understand that.  Now I do.

Make sure you look after yourself It's one of the worst things life can throw at you.

 

[tokyojoe]

Sorry about that mate, we've all only got one Mum. The grief will hit you at some time probably when you least expect it.

 

As you say though, she is no longer in pain. Look after youself and stay strong.

[Vincent Vega]

Really sorry to hear that Stig. Look after yourself.

[Paulie Dangerously]

1 hour ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

Sorry to hear that mate. 

[Furmedge]

Sorry to hear your news, Stig.

[Red_or_Dead]

Bloody Hell Stig, condolences.  Just look after yourself now. 

 

[VERBAL DIARRHEA]

Sorry to hear this sad news mate. Stay strong.

[Trumo]

Sorry for your loss Stig. Condolences to you and your family, and just echoing what others have said on here, look after yourself mate.

[aRdja]

Awful news Stig. Hope you’re doing okay mate.

[Pete]

2 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

Really sorry to hear this. 
My Brother in law passed away from this fucking disease in 2017. It hit me quite hard (he was 48) so how the hell my wife & her mum & sisters coped. Fuck knows. Condolences to all your family. Take it easy. 

[VERBAL DIARRHEA]

This fucking thing affects everyone linked to it, the sufferer, the family the Doctors, Nurses and Carers. Causes so much pain and hurt, my heart breaks for people.

 

[Tj hooker]

2 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

So sorry to hear about your Mum pal look after yourself always on the end of the line if needed 

[sh#t waffle]

So sorry to hear that, Stig. Absolute prick of a disease.

[Bjornebye]

Thanks all. Twat of a disease. 

[Juniper]

Really sorry to read this mate.
 

Thinking of you and take care of yourself. 

[suzy]

3 hours ago, Bjornebye said:

My mum passed away the early hours of this morning. She isn’t in any pain now. Her house has been a circus for days but last night she had us close family round and then we said our goodbyes and left her husband with her. 
 

I don’t know how I feel at all. It hasn’t sunk in one bit. I’ve just been doing normal stuff since I got the call at half 4. Terrified if it’s some sort of delayed grief but I’m just relieved she is out of pain. 
 

 

So sorry to hear this, take care of yourself and don’t always feel you have to be “the big man”

[Elite]

Condolences mate. Really sorry for your loss.

[Rico1304]

Terrible news. Look after yourself mate. 

[Barrington Womble]

Take care of yourself stig. 

[Grinch]

Really sorry Stig, horrible time for you.   Its really OK to cry, don't go holding that shit In or you'll combust.   Tears aren't a weakness.