Divorce - pros & cons?

[YorkshireRed]

1 minute ago, Special K said:

True. We just have a massive love/hate thing going on st the moment. We need normality.

I think there’s something about not making big decisions in times of crisis, particularly not under the current circumstances.

 

Who knows, maybe your marriage won’t work out but I sense you have enough there to fight for and the, hopefully, more settled times that are around the corner will bring a happier and more contented relationship for you and your wife. 

[Special K]

18 minutes ago, YorkshireRed said:

I think there’s something about not making big decisions in times of crisis, particularly not under the current circumstances.

 

Who knows, maybe your marriage won’t work out but I sense you have enough there to fight for and the, hopefully, more settled times that are around the corner will bring a happier and more contented relationship for you and your wife. 

Thanks mate

[Harry Squatter]

1 hour ago, Special K said:

I love my wife but we've been going through some really rough times over the last year. Part of me would love to get a divorce but I'm honestly not sure if it's the circumstances (live and work together on top of Covid lockdowns) that are causing it or if we just hate each other more than we love each other

 

 

The circumstances. Every little thing each of you do is amplified because there's no outlet. Can't go out, limited contact with other people, spending too much time in each others company, uncertainty over money etc. Sheer boredom, having too much time to think about things and not being able to plan anything.

[Nunavut Patrick]

A spicy vindaloo passes easier than a bad marriage.

[JagSquared]

20 hours ago, Josef Svejk said:

There's a song for every post, those about Ukrainian weddings included... 

 

 

Gogol Bordello are great, love through the roof, underground too.

 

 

the movie is Wristcutters: a love story - which is great too. 
 

on the topic itself we are coming up to 15 years together, we discussed getting married and just can’t be arsed with the wedding bit, it’s not going to change anything between us other than spend a fortune. we love going to weddings though.

[lifetime fan]

23 hours ago, Josef Svejk said:

Hahahahahahaha

[Bob]

On 06/02/2008 at 08:27, Redder Lurtz said:

I've been with my other half for nearly nine years, married for nearly 3 1/2 of those. Six months ago she decides she wants a divorce. Nothing too specific, just bits and pieces cobbled together to make a divorce petition. Devastated me at first but I've had a few months under the same roof as her to come to terms with it. I move out this Saturday and the decree absolute will be issued on March 3rd. I've spent the last 24 hours weighing up pros and cons of the divorce and I've decided the following:

 

Cons:

 

No guaranteed shag on tap

No guaranteed company

Loss of some 'joint' friends

 

 

Pros:

 

No more listening to her rattling on about her boring fucking job

It's given me the kick up the backside I needed to go & get the job I really wanted, which I've done

The new job will aid my social life to no end

I'm 39, not exactly over the hill

I've just rented a cool flat which has a swimming pool, gym, jacuzzi and steam room on the ground floor

I'll lose the stone I've been threatening to lose for so long

I'm about to book a lads' holiday for me and one of my mates later this year

I've got in touch with a couple of old flames :drool:

It's gonna be SO easy to pull living in the flat I've got

 

In conclusion:

 

Fuck her, stupid bitch. Her fucking loss.

I turned 40 on Saturday, and I decided just now I’d post in this thread about how much happier I am in myself now that a) in my marriage, and (most importantly) b) when I was devastated by my ex wanting to end our marriage.

 

re-reading this opening post for the first time in a long time I’d forgotten the similarities. Though I didn’t call mine a fucking bitch.

 

since my marriage ended, I got laid a lot more (some absolutely worth remembering, others to be utterly forgotten) but more importantly I made new friends and got a better social life as a result.

 

since my marriage ended, I got forced out under the guise of being made redundant from a job I’d been in 12 years and. In hindsight had hated for at least 3, got a redundancy payout, and have now been 3.5 years in a new company I really like, doing a job I now absolutely love.

 

since my marriage ended my relationship with my daughter has not been negatively impacted at all, other than only having her 50% of the time. We couldn’t be closer.

 

Since my marriage ended, I’ve met my girlfriend who I’ve been with coming up 4 years and in that time we’ve not had a row to be worthy of the name, we do fun stuff together, who gets on easily with my mates, and I couldn’t be happier with.

 

finally, my relationship with my ex is also good enough that when she’s going through the hardest of times with terminal cancer, locked down alone for much of the last year, me and my other half have been able to support when needed and the 4 of us have been able to socialise together for Sunday dinner, allowing our daughter to see us all getting on, healthily with no bitterness or animosity, leaving a positive legacy that will shape who she grows up to be.

 

just reflecting on life a little this morning, laying in bed with the aches of my weekend camping, and started to remember how down I’ve been at a handful of key times in the last 8 years, and how happy I currently am. 
 

anyine still going through those times - keep your chin up.

 

 

[Moo]

On 07/02/2021 at 10:53, Geoff Woade said:

That’s what I don’t understand. What is honestly the logic in her getting a payout from that? Why is property always something that you have to give up if they fuck you off?

I don’t know where the sense of entitlement comes from, my mate has a decent job, a few properties he rents out and his own place, got with this girl who had no assets of her own and a part time job. Her circumstances asset and job  never changed throughout. They got married and not even a year later she announced she was leaving him even though he’d done nothing wrong.

He had to give her 40 grand, just why?

I would guess, but it is a guess, that it's because she'd been contributing in that time? Bills etc? £40k doesn't sound like a huge amount from someone with a decent job and a few properties.  Maybe the judge looks at how much she contributed in the whole time they were together?

[VladimirIlyich]

11 minutes ago, Moo said:

I would guess, but it is a guess, that it's because she'd been contributing in that time? Bills etc? £40k doesn't sound like a huge amount from someone with a decent job and a few properties.  Maybe the judge looks at how much she contributed in the whole time they were together?

Yeah,getting married basically means being prepared to sign over 50% of your wealth to another person. If I was somebody in that position I'd wonder why I had to get married at all. I'd be willing to do it if children were involved but not as two previously unattached adults. I'm lucky that I've always been skint,and my missus too.

[Bjornebye]

Jessica Biel if you’re reading this, I’d marry you. Everyone else can fuck off. 

[Rico1304]

Sometimes, writing that cheque is the best thing you’ll do.  Your well-being is the most important thing. Pay the cunt and write it off. 

[Charles Penrose]

42 minutes ago, Colonel Kurtz said:

My ex ran off with her homeopath  

Ironically she had no alternative. 

[Rico1304]

7 minutes ago, Charles Penrose said:

Ironically she had no alternative. 

I don’t think that’s the full

story. Suspect he’s watering it down. 

[Paulie Dangerously]

My brother in law is leaving his cunt wife. Moving from Swindon to Liverpool and restarting his life. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do. Some facts:

 

House: Council House,he is not listed on the tenancy

Children: she has a 17 year old son who lives with them, is he responsible?

 

Other than that he hasn't got anything other than sky and a few bits down there. 

 

 

[Trumo]

4 minutes ago, Paulie Dangerously said:

My brother in law is leaving his cunt wife. Moving from Swindon to Liverpool and restarting his life. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do. Some facts:

 

House: Council House,he is not listed on the tenancy

Children: she has a 17 year old son who lives with them, is he responsible?

 

Other than that he hasn't got anything other than sky and a few bits down there.

 

 

Your sister?

[Paulie Dangerously]

10 minutes ago, Trumo said:

 

Your sister?

Haha!!

[Strontium]

35 minutes ago, Paulie Dangerously said:

My brother in law is leaving his cunt wife. Moving from Swindon to Liverpool and restarting his life. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do. Some facts:

 

House: Council House,he is not listed on the tenancy

Children: she has a 17 year old son who lives with them, is he responsible?

 

Other than that he hasn't got anything other than sky and a few bits down there. 

 

She'll still want half of nothing.

[tokyojoe]

There is only one answer. Don't get married in the first place.

 

Sounds easy doesn't ?

[Liverpool lad]

1 hour ago, tokyojoe said:

There is only one answer. Don't get married in the first place.

 

Sounds easy doesn't ?

It really is

 

[tokyojoe]

36 minutes ago, Liverpool lad said:

It really is

 

There are different answers to that statement.

[Harry Squatter]

A lad I know has just proposed to his bird. This will be his third marriage and he's only 43. 

 

I think he has only been divorced from his second wife a few months. I think I'd give up after one go.

[JagSquared]

51 minutes ago, Doctor Troy said:

A lad I know has just proposed to his bird. This will be his third marriage and he's only 43. 

 

I think he has only been divorced from his second wife a few months. I think I'd give up after one go.

People like this fascinate me. I have a distant cousin who’s just separated from wife number 4. He’s only early 40s too. 
 

surely they have to look at the common denominator?

[Harry Squatter]

17 minutes ago, JagSquared said:

People like this fascinate me. I have a distant cousin who’s just separated from wife number 4. He’s only early 40s too. 
 

surely they have to look at the common denominator?

He's a decent lad but obvious something happens in his relationships.

 

He's got a couple of kids from both previous ones and this new bird is a bit younger than him so will probably want kids at some stage. Defo couldn't be arsed with all that. 

[lifetime fan]

There’s an entire different level of fucked off a wife can drive you to…

 

 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-devon-58172810

[littletedwest]

The thing that makes me laugh is " the fire wasn't covered as he'd stopped paying the premiums without telling his wife"

Not really sure he'd have been covered since  he was the policy holder and started it deliberately