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Divorce - pros & cons?

Redder Lurtz

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14 hours ago, lifetime fan said:

Even as a very left leaning, socialist hippy type of person I believe there should be an anti cunt law. 

 

Basically if your ex turns out to be an even bigger, uber cunt that you ever thought possible...

 

Instead of jail time you get a medal for services to society. 

Be thankful you don't have kids with her mate, that ramps things up to a whole different level.

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Update: I have currently been moved out for 1yr and 1 day. That means I have 1 year left until I can start divorce proceedings. Absolutely cannot wait. 

 

The kids seem settled in their their new lives. This is the hardest part, hearing them talk about “Andy this and Andy that” he might be good to them but seeing texts on my daughters phone from the ex about giving him father’s day presents is taking the biscuit. I’m glad they like him but his the reason (ok not fully) your parents are not together. Still to this day I’ve encouraged the relationship as he moved in the day I moved out etc. 

 

Im approx £500 a month worse off. Just with the cost of living and doing everything on my own. Leaves me about £30 a month to myself which is hard but I’ve still got my kids and that’s all that matters. 

 

Im 7 months into a new relationship with someone that absolutely blows my mind every day. I know it was the kids but looking back I can’t believe I was stuck in such a boring, unloving, sexless marriage for so long. 

 

So all in all things are fucking great. 

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38 minutes ago, Fowlers God said:

Update: I have currently been moved out for 1yr and 1 day. That means I have 1 year left until I can start divorce proceedings. Absolutely cannot wait. 

 

The kids seem settled in their their new lives. This is the hardest part, hearing them talk about “Andy this and Andy that” he might be good to them but seeing texts on my daughters phone from the ex about giving him father’s day presents is taking the biscuit. I’m glad they like him but his the reason (ok not fully) your parents are not together. Still to this day I’ve encouraged the relationship as he moved in the day I moved out etc. 

 

Im approx £500 a month worse off. Just with the cost of living and doing everything on my own. Leaves me about £30 a month to myself which is hard but I’ve still got my kids and that’s all that matters. 

 

Im 7 months into a new relationship with someone that absolutely blows my mind every day. I know it was the kids but looking back I can’t believe I was stuck in such a boring, unloving, sexless marriage for so long. 

 

So all in all things are fucking great. 

FYI you only need to wait 2 years for a divorce if you are going for mutual no blame. You could always divorce her right now on grounds of unreasonable behaviour if you so wanted, although for the sake of 12 months it would probably cause more aggro than it's worth.

 

As far as her new boyfriend goes, it's a lot better that your kids like him rather than them coming to you all the time saying they hate him and him being there makes them miserable. I had that with my ex-wife's (now ex-) boyfriend and it's not nice when you can't do anything about it.

 

Great to hear that you're doing so well though. It's been almost 4 years since my ex-wife left me and I can honestly say now that she did me a massive favour.

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11 minutes ago, Colonel Kurtz said:

I’ve mentioned this before but my ex ran off with someone else then quite quickly got terminal breast cancer and died. It was really tough on the kids, a divorce followed by a bereavement. They’re in their mid 20s now and seem ok but tellingly neither are in a relationship. The stepdad is still in their lives but i never see him. 
 

My biggest regret is that my ex and I spent basically the last 5 years of her life arguing about money, the kids, everything really. I think this made things much worse for the kids and sometimes I worry the stress caused the cancer. My only advice is to try and stay on good terms however hard it is, you never know what life will through at you. 

Nah, she was a right cunt.  

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31 minutes ago, Colonel Kurtz said:

I’ve mentioned this before but my ex ran off with someone else then quite quickly got terminal breast cancer and died. It was really tough on the kids, a divorce followed by a bereavement. They’re in their mid 20s now and seem ok but tellingly neither are in a relationship. The stepdad is still in their lives but i never see him. 
 

My biggest regret is that my ex and I spent basically the last 5 years of her life arguing about money, the kids, everything really. I think this made things much worse for the kids and sometimes I worry the stress caused the cancer. My only advice is to try and stay on good terms however hard it is, you never know what life will through at you. 


I can get being civil in front of kids. Not sure I’d be able to be that big a person but can understand that. 
 

No kids involved and she’s being a cunt? Fuck that. All bets are off. 
 

Best £30k I’ve ever spent. 

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I can get being civil in front of kids. Not sure I’d be able to be that big a person but can understand that. 
 

No kids involved and she’s being a cunt? Fuck that. All bets are off. 
 

Best £30k I’ve ever spent. 

Fucking hell, she must have been bad. 30k. Would have been cheaper to kill her.

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Serious question: What possible con could there be to divorce if it gets to the point for either person where they're seriously thinking about it? What is the percentage where that situation is ever salvageable or people change their minds and live happily ever after together? Can't be very big. Other than having a two parent home for a kid, but then if both parents are competent, is that even an issue these days? And even if you stay together, there's probably fighting all the time and shit.

 

Just feels like one of those things, if it's on the table, you just gotta do it and move on.

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