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Scattering ashes


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Keeping it lighthearted hopefully. 

 

My Dad is 83 and has had long term cancer. He's from Birkenhead but my parents retired to Devon years ago. 

 

Long story short, he originally wanted his ashes scattering at sea, as he worked with ships and trawlers all his career. He's now decided he wants them scattering off a Mersey Ferry. Anyone got any experience of that? It'll be a nice family event when the time comes I suppose but in my experience a Mersey crossing is an extremely windy affair! 

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10 minutes ago, Lurtz said:

Keeping it lighthearted hopefully. 

 

My Dad is 83 and has had long term cancer. He's from Birkenhead but my parents retired to Devon years ago. 

 

Long story short, he originally wanted his ashes scattering at sea, as he worked with ships and trawlers all his career. He's now decided he wants them scattering off a Mersey Ferry. Anyone got any experience of that? It'll be a nice family event when the time comes I suppose but in my experience a Mersey crossing is an extremely windy affair! 


My uncle did a fair bit of diving off the Pembrokeshire coast with my dad when we (my 2 cousins and sister) were kids, so my cousin scattered his ashes around there off a private boat. She said it was a really nice send off and something he would really appreciate. 
 

I want mine going at sea too. With any luck I’ll be living somewhere warmer when I shuffle off this mortal coil, so I can be dumped on a nice coral reef somewhere in Asia, rather than off Skomer island in Wales. 

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16 minutes ago, Ashberry said:

Did my uncles ashes off the Mersey ferry. They gave us a sectioned off part of the stern and were really geared up to accomodate. Just make sure the tide is outgoing otherwise he'll end up on Widnes mudflats  

Its what he would have wanted.

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17 minutes ago, Strontium said:

We were supposed to scatter her dad's ashes on a nice hill they used to go walking on, but then my mother-in-law found evidence of him having a decades-long affair and lashed them in the canal instead.

 

Hahaha fucking hell. 

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2 hours ago, Lurtz said:

Keeping it lighthearted hopefully. 

 

My Dad is 83 and has had long term cancer. He's from Birkenhead but my parents retired to Devon years ago. 

 

Long story short, he originally wanted his ashes scattering at sea, as he worked with ships and trawlers all his career. He's now decided he wants them scattering off a Mersey Ferry. Anyone got any experience of that? It'll be a nice family event when the time comes I suppose but in my experience a Mersey crossing is an extremely windy affair! 

That's what we did with my dad's ashes.

Just contact Merseytravel/Mersey Ferries.They're really decent and respectful about the whole thing.

https://www.merseyferries.co.uk/boat-hire-sponsorship-and-filming/ashes-scatterings/

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2 hours ago, Lurtz said:

Keeping it lighthearted hopefully. 

 

My Dad is 83 and has had long term cancer. He's from Birkenhead but my parents retired to Devon years ago. 

 

Long story short, he originally wanted his ashes scattering at sea, as he worked with ships and trawlers all his career. He's now decided he wants them scattering off a Mersey Ferry. Anyone got any experience of that? It'll be a nice family event when the time comes I suppose but in my experience a Mersey crossing is an extremely windy affair! 

Don't worry about the wind.  When we scattered my dad's ashes, I think we just dropped the box into the water.

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Carly wanted hers scattered in the New Forest as she’d had a couple of horses from there. 
 

We took her ashes down and went for a walk around and found somewhere where we thought fitting, this beautiful clearing surrounded by trees that created an almost natural amphitheater.  
 

Milo was trying to eat the ashes and as we’re walking back to the car there’s a signpost saying the area is called Deadman Hill. 

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Mum and Dad's ashes are still upstairs as we haven't had time to go to the coast and scatter them yet.I went to collect Dad's from the Undertaker expecting a smallish container, they gave me a shoe box sized ,er box,that was quite heavy. When I got back in I weighed it and it was just over 4 kilo's.

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4 hours ago, Ashberry said:

Did my uncles ashes off the Mersey ferry. They gave us a sectioned off part of the stern and were really geared up to accomodate. Just make sure the tide is outgoing otherwise he'll end up on Widnes mudflats  

 

2 hours ago, AngryOfTuebrook said:

That's what we did with my dad's ashes.

Just contact Merseytravel/Mersey Ferries.They're really decent and respectful about the whole thing.

https://www.merseyferries.co.uk/boat-hire-sponsorship-and-filming/ashes-scatterings/

 

Yes and the ferry stops for a minute or two while the ashes are scattered and gives a little toot of the horn to see them on their way. 

It's an emotional but really "nice" experience.

 

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4 hours ago, Lurtz said:

Keeping it lighthearted hopefully. 

 

My Dad is 83 and has had long term cancer. He's from Birkenhead but my parents retired to Devon years ago. 

 

Long story short, he originally wanted his ashes scattering at sea, as he worked with ships and trawlers all his career. He's now decided he wants them scattering off a Mersey Ferry. Anyone got any experience of that? It'll be a nice family event when the time comes I suppose but in my experience a Mersey crossing is an extremely windy affair! 


I want mine scattered at sea as well. I’d like to think they’d make the effort to scatter them in places I sailed and meant something. Like the urinals in the Apsley pub in Southsea or the bogs in the upper level in the Kop. Or even in the middle of the Atlantic where I’ve always felt I belong. 
 

Hope you find the right place at the right time Redderz x

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2 hours ago, Clem H Fandango said:

I always fancied being scattered at sea until I watched a documentary of our coastline + raw sewage. Think i will go for a tree or rose bush.

We buried my Father in Laws ashes in his garden. He was a blue but a lovely fella so we planted a Hydrangea over his ashes with them having blue flowers.

 

What we didn't know was the colour of the flowers depends on the acidity of the soil and the blooms were a sort of yellow with a browny tinge.

 

He was a heavy smoker so I quipped that'll be the nicotine.

Got a mixed reaction that.

 

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10 hours ago, Ashberry said:

Did my uncles ashes off the Mersey ferry. They gave us a sectioned off part of the stern and were really geared up to accomodate. Just make sure the tide is outgoing otherwise he'll end up on Widnes mudflats  

 

We did the same for a mate in work. It was in early summer, perfect weather for a boat trip which helped. Given the circumstances it was really nice.

 

You're in the boat for a while and there's nothing else to do, nowhere else to go but watch and think. Nobody went back to work that day - I genuinely think people just thought there's more to life, even if it was just a couple of hours. 

 

I guess the only vaguely negative thought I had was - the sea (or river in this case but let's face it the Mersey is basically the Irish sea) is a big place - you cant visit the same spot like you can on land, if that's something that would give you comfort. 

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4 hours ago, Clem H Fandango said:

A friend of mine died a few years ago and his widow had his ashes made into an ornamental elephant to go with the rest of her collection.

Made me wonder what useful items I could be turned into, don't think a dildo for my widow would go down well.


Might go up well. 

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5 hours ago, Clem H Fandango said:

A friend of mine died a few years ago and his widow had his ashes made into an ornamental elephant to go with the rest of her collection.

Made me wonder what useful items I could be turned into, don't think a dildo for my widow would go down well.

 

Ah we're entering the realm of "Ashes to Gashes" for those who remember when SKI was around these parts. 

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15 hours ago, johnsusername said:

I guess the only vaguely negative thought I had was - the sea (or river in this case but let's face it the Mersey is basically the Irish sea) is a big place - you cant visit the same spot like you can on land, if that's something that would give you comfort. 

That's what I like about the idea: you're not in one place; you're everywhere and nowhere, Baby.

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