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1 hour ago, Section_31 said:

Was prompted to have a read over this thread again as I was chatting to my Mrs about my mum again last night.

 

She does this weird 'keeping in touch by numbers' thing where she texts me a couple of times a week with 'how are you?' and I'll respond with whatever, and she'll reply 'good I'll let you get some sleep now night'. It could be like 8pm. She literally doesn't care what the answer is. 

 

I was in hospital just before Christmas seriously ill for about a week, in for two days, let out, back in for five on IV antibiotics, operation etc, neither my mum or sister came to see me. Me ma reckoned she wasn't well, me sister didn't even text to see if I was alright. My uncle came to see me and he's in a wheelchair and has agoraphobia, think he felt sorry for me when I'd told him. Like a mug though I've still been delivering bits of shopping and stuff throughout all this brouhaha. 

 

I had to take her for a brain scan a few months back to check she didn't have dementia (she didn't) but this was because she's kept losing stuff, or leaving the door open etc. We suspect it was my sister hiding things and moving them around to make her think she's lost the plot. I tentatively raised this, but she's having  none of it. Interestingly, the memory nurse who came to see her (my sister stayed in the room during the visit) said before he even sent her for the scan 'I don't think it is neurological, maybe it's something else'. Nudge nudge, and indeed, wink wink.  

 

I've come to a bit of an amateur psychologist's conclusion about my mum. Essentially, my dad left when I was two (they were both about 23), the reason being that his mum had built him up all his life to think he was something special, he played in a band and rode around on a motorbike and I suspect thought he was going to be famous. (he still lives in Speke though, is a bum, and has six other kids to different women). I got to wondering if my mum blamed me for being left on her own, whether she knew it or not. I remember her being loving as I was growing up but viewed my nan and granddad - her parents - as the strong figures you'd usually associate with parents, providers and protectors, I reckon me mum felt like more of an older sister. I suspect she saw me as company/a crutch as I was growing up but sill always put herself first (hence her keeping her second husband around so long despite him treating me like shit). 

 

I think this is why I tend to be an angry cunt, have never believed in blood's thicker than water, and have spent most of my life fantasizing about getting away from people. My in laws are sound but if anything happened to my wife I wouldn't bother with them, often I feel like I could take or leave my mates too. In general, I've found humanity to be largely a disappointment. 

 

 

Treat people as they treat you and that includes family, you'll soon weed out the people that aren't worth having around vice versa.

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On 04/09/2016 at 14:47, Furmedge said:
On 04/09/2016 at 14:21, lifetime fan said:

The wife hasn't spoken to her dad since we've been together, he wasn't invited to the wedding but she's always got on with his girlfriend - think she pity's her more than anything.

 

They'll exchange messages every 4/5 weeks on faceaids but I've never met her either.

 

Last night she gets a message from her dads girlfriend saying he'd seen the wedding photos and was glad she was happy, 'the only thing he'd complain about was her glasses, he didn't like them'.

 

 

What a fucking cunt. I mean it takes a special kind of cunt to do what he has in the past...but to not even try and make things right to walk your daughter down the aisle and then not even be able to say how good she looked?

 

It's probably a good idea I never have met the prick.

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I've never met my father in law either, and my wife has never made the effort to contact him after he walked out on his family when she was 10. He never even attended his own mothers funeral. I hope he's seen our wedding photos and pictures of our kids somehow because that's the closest he'll ever get.

Well the day has finally arrived, sort of. Had a phone call from my mother in law asking if we'd seen Granada Reports today. Turns out my father in law was on;

 

https://www.itv.com/news/granada/2020-08-01/councillor-suspended-after-social-media-outburst-blaming-illegal-immigrants-and-nhs-for-new-local-lockdown

 

Sent my wife's head west when she looked him up. She had no idea what he was up to but the fact he's a massive twat on top of being a Tory justifies us never having to have met previously. The funny thing is, my wife is a huge socialist, adores Jeremy Corbyn and despises everything the Tories stand for.

 

We managed to locate his Facebook profile. Amongst all the Nigel Farage love in, there's some interesting parts of his life. Seems he preferred to stick around for his last family after abandoning his first. 

 

Seeing the look of disbelief and obvious hurt in the missus' face (she's not laid eyes on him for 30 years) I'd love to ruin his life.

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11 minutes ago, Furmedge said:

Well the day has finally arrived, sort of. Had a phone call from my mother in law asking if we'd seen Granada Reports today. Turns out my father in law was on;

 

https://www.itv.com/news/granada/2020-08-01/councillor-suspended-after-social-media-outburst-blaming-illegal-immigrants-and-nhs-for-new-local-lockdown

 

Sent my wife's head west when she looked him up. She had no idea what he was up to but the fact he's a massive twat on top of being a Tory justifies us never having to have met previously. The funny thing is, my wife is a huge socialist, adores Jeremy Corbyn and despises everything the Tories stand for.

 

We managed to locate his Facebook profile. Amongst all the Nigel Farage love in, there's some interesting parts of his life. Seems he preferred to stick around for his last family after abandoning his first. 

 

Seeing the look of disbelief and obvious hurt in the missus' face (she's not laid eyes on him for 30 years) I'd love to ruin his life.


He’s made it onto my list. 

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1 hour ago, Bruce Spanner said:

My ‘mother’ ‘lent’ my first ever paper round money to pay  ‘Monday man’.  

 

Never did get that back and at the age of thirteen I realised it was up to me.

 

’They fuck you up your mum and dad, they might not mean to...’

Most of my birthday money from aunties and uncles went on the "premium bonds" for a goof few years 

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Just now, Bob Spunkmouse said:

Fucking family. Not mine, but that of my ex. I’m not going into details but fucking hell. What’s wrong with people?

Not sure you’re actually after an answer to your question but many are completely, off the scale, mental. A good proportion in ways that damage those who go anywhere near them. 

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My exes family are a barrel of laughs. Her youngest brother is addicted to drugs and in debt to all kinds of wonderful characters. 
 

I think the most fun was when he gave them my exes details so they could try and get the money off her, what a great feeling that is getting to worry about them going round to where your kids live. He’s such a great bloke honestly, the time where he was about to get battered so picked up his 1 year old nephew to use as a human shield was straight out of the top drawer. 

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On 05/08/2020 at 14:18, Bob Spunkmouse said:

Fucking family. Not mine, but that of my ex. I’m not going into details but fucking hell. What’s wrong with people?

They're not the worst, but two decades in and I can never get my head around the psychodrama that is the life of my in-laws. With the exception of my wife and her dad none of them like each other, yet despite this - because of it? - they feel the need to stay in regular contact, leading to frequent gatherings where resentment is never far from the surface. By way of contrast, I might not see my siblings for months on end, something that was true even before the pandemic, yet when we meet we just pick up where we left off as if it were yesterday. Why the fuck is it so hard for some adults to be, well, adults?

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I'm lucky really. Worst issues I had was with my dad. Always a functioning alcoholic by the time I was 21 he descended full blown. Lost our house, split up with my mum. I've put this on here before but for his 40th he rented a villa in Spain, for his 50th we went to a nice pub, for his 60th he was homeless. He managed get a flat at 60.

He was still boozing, ended up in a care home with kosakoffs. Despite all that he was always pleasant. My mum used take him for a coffee 3 days a week and he was really well and quite happy.

 

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My Mum and Dad are the tightest cunts living. They've made a killing on several houses they've sold but always cry poverty. 

 

They made a £100k profit on one house and £40k on the last one. When I've asked them in the past about why they are skint they always clam up. 

 

The last house they moved from they said they were fed up of the crime in the area so decided to move but refused to tell me where they were going to. Turns out they moved not far from Altcourse prison and where there have been several shootings.  Simply because they thought I'd look up on rightmove how much the house was. The only reason they moved was because they had made a profit on their house and moved to another one which was at least £20k cheaper.

 

I reckon they've easily got £200k in the bank but me and my kids have never seen a penny of it. In contrast to my mates Dad when he retired he took all his grandkids to Florida. I wouldn't have minded if they'd just taken my daughter out for the day somewhere while me and the Mrs deal with my son but they are too tight with their time or money to even do that.

 

My Dad retired when he was 75 despite working his entire life and has about 5 different pensions. He was still doing overtime every week until he left. Yet they never go on holiday unless it's a freebie, buy the cheapest of everything, never drink or eat out. They've got out of buying birthday presents for my kids by saying they put money in a trust fund. Yet dont tell me how much is in there or how I could access it if they died. 

 

My Mum offered to pay for me and my Dad to go to Barcelona for a match for my 40th but wanted me to pay for my flight and match ticket. She said they would pay for a hotel but they had some free  nights left from a holiday club they were in so wanted to use that, plus the hotel was about 50 miles away from Barcelona. She pulled the same stunt 10 years previously and offered me a one night hotel stay in London in November even though my birthday is in July, I've been to London a thousand times and also would have had to pay for my own train tickets. Every time I think they can't astound me more with their mingebag behaviour they raise it to a new level.

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17 minutes ago, Doctor Troy said:

My Mum and Dad are the tightest cunts living. They've made a killing on several houses they've sold but always cry poverty. 

 

They made a £100k profit on one house and £40k on the last one. When I've asked them in the past about why they are skint they always clam up. 

 

The last house they moved from they said they were fed up of the crime in the area so decided to move but refused to tell me where they were going to. Turns out they moved not far from Altcourse prison and where there have been several shootings.  Simply because they thought I'd look up on rightmove how much the house was. The only reason they moved was because they had made a profit on their house and moved to another one which was at least £20k cheaper.

 

I reckon they've easily got £200k in the bank but me and my kids have never seen a penny of it. In contrast to my mates Dad when he retired he took all his grandkids to Florida. I wouldn't have minded if they'd just taken my daughter out for the day somewhere while me and the Mrs deal with my son but they are too tight with their time or money to even do that.

 

My Dad retired when he was 75 despite working his entire life and has about 5 different pensions. He was still doing overtime every week until he left. Yet they never go on holiday unless it's a freebie, buy the cheapest of everything, never drink or eat out. They've got out of buying birthday presents for my kids by saying they put money in a trust fund. Yet dont tell me how much is in there or how I could access it if they died. 

 

My Mum offered to pay for me and my Dad to go to Barcelona for a match for my 40th but wanted me to pay for my flight and match ticket. She said they would pay for a hotel but they had some free  nights left from a holiday club they were in so wanted to use that, plus the hotel was about 50 miles away from Barcelona. She pulled the same stunt 10 years previously and offered me a one night hotel stay in London in November even though my birthday is in July, I've been to London a thousand times and also would have had to pay for my own train tickets. Every time I think they can't astound me more with their mingebag behaviour they raise it to a new level.

They sound a bit weird but hopefully you've got a decent wedge coming to you when "you know what" happens.  Some older people are a bit odd with money as it was not the done thing to talk about, or show, how much you have especially if you came from a family with very little.

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My mums hilarious with money. She once bought some batteries for her remote, threw the old ones out then went mad when I informed her the TV wasn't changing as she'd put the digi box behind a yellow pages. " i've wasted a pound on batteries" .She once bought a cake for 99p with currants in as it was the cheapest one, she doesn't like currants.

But she does spend money when its needed she bought my new nephew a pram just before he was born and is paying for my dads headstone despite them being separated

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25 minutes ago, Moo said:

They sound a bit weird but hopefully you've got a decent wedge coming to you when "you know what" happens.  Some older people are a bit odd with money as it was not the done thing to talk about, or show, how much you have especially if you came from a family with very little.

I haven't been in contact with them now for 3 years so I reckon I've been written out of their will. 

 

Fell out with them over their lack of effort with their grandkids. 

 

My sister said my mum is weird because of how she grew up but all my mums friends spend their money and go on holiday regularly which makes me wonder why they have anything in common with them.

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3 minutes ago, Doctor Troy said:

I haven't been in contact with them now for 3 years so I reckon I've been written out of their will. 

 

Fell out with them over their lack of effort with their grandkids. 

 

My sister said my mum is weird because of how she grew up but all my mums friends spend their money and go on holiday regularly which makes me wonder why they have anything in common with them.

This all sounds a bit Jessie Pinkman, is it an option to defraud them out of some property?

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15 minutes ago, littletedwest said:

My mums hilarious with money. She once bought some batteries for her remote, threw the old ones out then went mad when I informed her the TV wasn't changing as she'd put the digi box behind a yellow pages. " i've wasted a pound on batteries" .She once bought a cake for 99p with currants in as it was the cheapest one, she doesn't like currants.

But she does spend money when its needed she bought my new nephew a pram just before he was born and is paying for my dads headstone despite them being separated

My mum regularly buys shite things because they are cheaper but then ends up buying replacements.

 

She bought a shite car because it was something ridiculous like 500 quid and then my cousin was getting married in Nottingham she decided to hire a car for a couple of days because she said her car would break down as it was unreliable. She's done this for 2 other weddings in Yorkshire and Norfolk then ended up paying a fortune when the car failed its MOT. 

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