Depression

[Creator Supreme]

How's everyone doing? Ok I hope. Me, not so hot!

 

I hate this time of year, it drags my mood through the fucking floor and I turn in to an even bigger cunt because of it!

 

Roll on fucking January!

[Bjornebye]

6 minutes ago, Creator Supreme said:

How's everyone doing? Ok I hope. Me, not so hot!

 

I hate this time of year, it drags my mood through the fucking floor and I turn in to an even bigger cunt because of it!

 

Roll on fucking January!

Its called 'The NV Virus' 

 

Aah mate I know Christmas is a shitty time for a lot of people. Everyone's emotion senses are heightened. I just hope for you and anyone around you's sake that you don't hear that Mariah Carey song at any point. 

 

Stay strong fella and try and embrace the good bits. 

[Creator Supreme]

2 minutes ago, Bjornebye said:

Its called 'The NV Virus' 

 

Aah mate I know Christmas is a shitty time for a lot of people. Everyone's emotion senses are heightened. I just hope for you and anyone around you's sake that you don't hear that Mariah Carey song at any point. 

 

Stay strong fella and try and embrace the good bits. 

I've just heard that fucking monstrosity played full blast out of someone's car. I hope their big end goes!

 

Cheers mate

[Champ]

15 minutes ago, Creator Supreme said:

How's everyone doing? Ok I hope. Me, not so hot!

 

I hate this time of year, it drags my mood through the fucking floor and I turn in to an even bigger cunt because of it!

 

Roll on fucking January!

Exactly.

 

He may not be everyone’s taste but Professor Green speaks such a lot of sense on the subject..

 

...whatever those thoughts you may be having, good or bad, they will pass.

 

I don’t know how you’re really feeling but those words sound so much more positive than you have come across at times. Stick with it, the days are getting lighter after today

[Bjornebye]

8 minutes ago, Creator Supreme said:

I've just heard that fucking monstrosity played full blast out of someone's car. I hope their big end goes!

 

Cheers mate

Yeah they will twat a skip or something if god is a good guy 

[Guest]

Never give up...

 

 

[Babb'sBurstNad]

4 hours ago, Champ said:

Exactly.

 

He may not be everyone’s taste but Professor Green speaks such a lot of sense on the subject..

 

...whatever those thoughts you may be having, good or bad, they will pass.

 

I don’t know how you’re really feeling but those words sound so much more positive than you have come across at times. Stick with it, the days are getting lighter after today

One of the ideas from using Headspace that really stuck with me was visualising dark thoughts as clouds; above them the sun's still shining, and they always move on.

[Tony Moanero]

9 minutes ago, Babb'sBurstNad said:

One of the ideas from using Headspace that really stuck with me was visualising dark thoughts as clouds; above them the sun's still shining, and they always move on.

Balls, out of rep. Was going to rep you for posting on the GF during the match.

[Guest]

14 minutes ago, Tony Moanero said:

Balls, out of rep. Was going to rep you for posting on the GF during the match.

I was tempted to neg you for posting on the GF during the match but

 

a) I have just posted too

b) it's half time

c) we're winning

d) I have rep to spare

[Babb'sBurstNad]

1 hour ago, Tony Moanero said:

Balls, out of rep. Was going to rep you for posting on the GF during the match.

Fell asleep watching Knight Rider and forgot it was on. 

[Guest]

10 minutes ago, Babb'sBurstNad said:

Fell asleep watching Knight Rider and forgot it was on. 

Causing hassle? get hoff.

[Hades]

7 hours ago, Babb'sBurstNad said:

One of the ideas from using Headspace that really stuck with me was visualising dark thoughts as clouds; above them the sun's still shining, and they always move on.

To throw another Thich Nhat Hanh metaphor in there for those that struggle with visualisation when depressed, consciousness is a lake. No matter whether the sky is dark or sunny, consciousness is only the reflective surface. Your job is not to poison the lake by identifying with the reflections.

[Guest]

Thought I would put this here incase anyone wants to use it... 

 

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[Grinch]

It’s a cunt.  My cat helps and right now, I think she’s the only thing that does.  Depression and anxiety is always something I’ve struggled with but the last four weeks have been a daily struggle to keep existing.

 

im in the midst of much upheaval though so I know I just need to ride it out, this will pass.   Relationship in tatters, missing two other pets, living in a town I’m not sure I want to be in but I do have a good job here.    I’m thankful I have an understanding boss or I could have been adding unemployment and homelessness to that list.

 

And I’ve no one to blame but me.   Tbh it’s been a shitshow of a two years, I’m surprised I didn’t crack sooner.

[Numero Veinticinco]

18 minutes ago, Grinch said:

It’s a cunt.  My cat helps and right now, I think she’s the only thing that does.  Depression and anxiety is always something I’ve struggled with but the last four weeks have been a daily struggle to keep existing.

 

im in the midst of much upheaval though so I know I just need to ride it out, this will pass.   Relationship in tatters, missing two other pets, living in a town I’m not sure I want to be in but I do have a good job here.    I’m thankful I have an understanding boss or I could have been adding unemployment and homelessness to that list.

 

And I’ve no one to blame but me.   Tbh it’s been a shitshow of a two years, I’m surprised I didn’t crack sooner.

Sorry to hear that, mate. Just know, you’re not the only one. I’ve had a horrible two months. Another fella from here who I hold in very high regard is also suffering. It’s a real bastard and it can make you feel so incredibly shit. Hang in there, mate. And if you can’t take any more and you want to talk to some daft cunt off the internet, just send me a PM. 

[Grinch]

14 hours ago, Numero Veinticinco said:

Sorry to hear that, mate. Just know, you’re not the only one. I’ve had a horrible two months. Another fella from here who I hold in very high regard is also suffering. It’s a real bastard and it can make you feel so incredibly shit. Hang in there, mate. And if you can’t take any more and you want to talk to some daft cunt off the internet, just send me a PM. 

 

Thanks man.

 

I know I just need to wait and ride out some stuff first, before I can even look at how I’m feeling.

 

When the dust settles it’s of upmost importance that I finally tackle this and stop brushing it under the rug.  That’s clearly not worked for me.

 

ive no faith in magic pills so I think I’ll start by reading up and educating myself.

[Numero Veinticinco]

6 minutes ago, Grinch said:

 

Thanks man.

 

I know I just need to wait and ride out some stuff first, before I can even look at how I’m feeling.

 

When the dust settles it’s of upmost importance that I finally tackle this and stop brushing it under the rug.  That’s clearly not worked for me.

 

ive no faith in magic pills so I think I’ll start by reading up and educating myself.

Yeah, dealing with it instead of ignoring it is definitely a must. It’s not easy and as soon as you start to feel a bit better you’re liable to start pushing it under the rug again. At least I did. As for pills... I had the same attitude for years until I just couldn’t go without them. Then within a couple of weeks things started to get easier and more manageable, just from swallowing a pill with breakfast. If you’re low on chemicals, it’s going to suck regardless. Getting your diet right and some exercise will help too. 

[Bjornebye]

15 hours ago, Grinch said:

It’s a cunt.  My cat helps and right now, I think she’s the only thing that does.  Depression and anxiety is always something I’ve struggled with but the last four weeks have been a daily struggle to keep existing.

 

im in the midst of much upheaval though so I know I just need to ride it out, this will pass.   Relationship in tatters, missing two other pets, living in a town I’m not sure I want to be in but I do have a good job here.    I’m thankful I have an understanding boss or I could have been adding unemployment and homelessness to that list.

 

And I’ve no one to blame but me.   Tbh it’s been a shitshow of a two years, I’m surprised I didn’t crack sooner.

It will pass mate. I had a really shit week last week. Didn't want to leave my bed, talk to anyone or eat. Decided to knock the ale on the head for a bit after far too much over xmas. After 2/3 sleepless nights lay there sweating with my head all over the place unable to switch off I slowly started feeling better. this week I've eaten like a maniac, I'm up fresh every morning, out like a light when my head hits the pillow and it has done me the world of good.

 

Still not perfect and a lot of shit I can't immediately change is playing on my mind but just feeling physically better is priceless. I am motivated to clean up, shower, cook food as opposed to just make noodles as they are easy and getting fresh air if needed. I did get some sleep aid tablets from wilkinson though that have helped me. Only about a quid a box and they are herbal. Literally within 20 minutes of having a couple i'm yawning and ready for bed. Out like a light for 7 hours every night. 

 

Things will get better mate, its just how well you ride it when it is shit. its far easier said than done and I know how easy it is to try and drink through the pain. Ive done that for nearly 3 years and it has got me nowhere. 

 

As NV has said, if you want to chat with a complete stranger my PM is always open. 

[Captain Turdseye]

If y’all don’t want to take prescription drugs, don’t let them go to waste. Send them to me and I’ll dispose of them responsibly. 

[Champ]

1 hour ago, Numero Veinticinco said:

Yeah, dealing with it instead of ignoring it is definitely a must. It’s not easy and as soon as you start to feel a bit better you’re liable to start pushing it under the rug again. At least I did. As for pills... I had the same attitude for years until I just couldn’t go without them. Then within a couple of weeks things started to get easier and more manageable, just from swallowing a pill with breakfast. If you’re low on chemicals, it’s going to suck regardless. Getting your diet right and some exercise will help too. 

The man’s right and I know Stig’ll be along in a minute to say what a horrible time he had but the drugs work for me. They won’t sort out whatever it is you’re struggling with but they can settle your mind and give you the space you need to help you think what you need to do to get to a better place.

 

You are very definitely not alone

[Bjornebye]

1 minute ago, Champ said:

The man’s right and I know Stig’ll be along in a minute to say what a horrible time he had but the drugs work for me. They won’t sort out whatever it is you’re struggling with but they can put you in a better place to settle your mind and give you the space you need to help you think what you need to do to get to a better place.

 

You are very definitely not alone

They work for some clearly Cath so i'm not knocking them too much. I personally wouldn't ever touch them again. Talking is a far better solution IMO. 

[Numero Veinticinco]

8 minutes ago, Bjornebye said:

They work for some clearly Cath so i'm not knocking them too much. I personally wouldn't ever touch them again. Talking is a far better solution IMO. 

I assume you had a bad experience with them, mate? That can really colour a person’s view on them. One of my best mates was misdiagnosed and they put him on something he shouldn’t have had. He went crazy. Literally, hallucinating, suicide attempts the lots. They then sent him to the mental health team, they diagnosed him, got him sorted on meds, he’s now earning loads from his new career. Like a pig in shit now. 

 

For me, it’s about 1) severity 2) the correct approach to the individual. If you have mild  to moderate depression, then I think talk therapy alone is a great solution. If things are more severe, with terrible anxiety and severe depression, you’ll not get to that point without medication in quite a few cases. A more holistic approach is better in those cases.

 

 

[VERBAL DIARRHEA]

The support on this thread is fantastic. We should start a Anxiety, Stress and Depression Quiz Team to support each other and socialise. I’m in, depending how I feel, if I can be arsed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love you all. Not Stig though.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m in love with him

 

[Oh Buoy]

4 minutes ago, Numero Veinticinco said:

For me, it’s about 1) severity 2) the correct approach to the individual. If you have mild  to moderate depression, then I think talk therapy alone is a great solution. If things are more severe, with terrible anxiety and severe depression, you’ll not get to that point without medication in quite a few cases. A more holistic approach is better in those cases.

Wanted to expand on this as I've stated this a few times (I think). 

 

Medication is designed to provide chemical balance (or mood regulation if that works for you). For instance, if someone presents with low mood or depression and they're really struggling something like Sertraline/Fluoxetine is usually provided. That's not your GP saying "ey mate, you're a bit fucked in the head and you need these to survive" it's there to provide you with some stability and consistency in your mood. Another example is those struggling with social anxiety often have huge highs and devastating lows on a daily basis and working with these folks without the aid of medication can be a journey of suicide attempts, self-harm and challenging recovery. With, they are more able to rationalise, learn and understand barriers which is stopping them from say getting their hair cut or going to the shop. 

 

You can complete therapy with or without medication. I've worked with both and both have great recoveries - it all depends on the client. If you're mood is all over the place frequency then speak to your GP. Get some balance and then work on that foundation. If you're already consistent with your mood, work on your behaviour. Get out more, plan things in your diary, find your values and do the stuff you love. You don't need to wait 'til the dust settles' you can do it right this minute. 

 

Have an empowering wank. 

[Bjornebye]

31 minutes ago, Numero Veinticinco said:

I assume you had a bad experience with them, mate? That can really colour a person’s view on them. One of my best mates was misdiagnosed and they put him on something he shouldn’t have had. He went crazy. Literally, hallucinating, suicide attempts the lots. They then sent him to the mental health team, they diagnosed him, got him sorted on meds, he’s now earning loads from his new career. Like a pig in shit now. 

 

For me, it’s about 1) severity 2) the correct approach to the individual. If you have mild  to moderate depression, then I think talk therapy alone is a great solution. If things are more severe, with terrible anxiety and severe depression, you’ll not get to that point without medication in quite a few cases. A more holistic approach is better in those cases.

 

 

Against every ounce of my will my ex made me go and see a doctor to talk. She could see I was shot to pieces but I would't admit it. Broke down the second I walked through the door with the doc. Half an hour bringing everything up and she signed me off for a month and prescribed me some. I was bad but a week later I was an absolute disgrace. Suicidal the lot. Hit the bottle big time and pretty much fucked my life up. Took a few of my mates organising a few drinks which was actually an invite for them all to sit me down and basically bollock the shit out of me to even remotely see any light. A few lads off here were a great help as well but i'm still struggling to get out of the mess I left behind. If I could go back I wouldn't have touched them. I'm not 'blaming' them outright as I obviously had issues but they certainly triggered a different, bad side of me. 

 

That said if they work for some then brilliant.