Would you sleep around while in a relationship?

[Kevin D]

Maybe he already knows but is to ashamed to admit/accept it. I'd just play dumb mate, he's not with her anymore anyway.

He almost certainly knows.

[Elite]

Loser of the TLW horse racing prediction league has to shag her?

[RedKnight]

Too much time has passed to tell him now, you'll look a cunt and you don't want to be the real victim in all of this.

[KMD7]

Me and my bird became friends with a couple when our daughter was going to the same nursery as theirs about two years ago. They were, on the face of it, a really nice husband and wife, married for nine years. I started going out drinking occasionally with him and Mrs Turdseye was getting pally with her, going on dog walks, round each other’s houses for a brew and a chat, etc.

 

It wasn’t too long before my bird was coming back telling me stories about the wife. She was apparently quite brazen about having four/five men on the go all the time. It properly shocked me. Not just because she was supposed to be happily married but also because she’s a big old unit and I wouldn’t go there if you paid me. They had a chalet on the coast and she’d go away regularly for some ‘alone time’ and she’d also have blokes round while he was at work. My bird didn't really want to know because the husband is sound and it put her in an awkward position but this woman just would not shut up about being rattled by blokes off the internet.

 

Her telling me put me in an awkward position also because for all I know while I was out on the ale with him she was getting shafted in the marital bed. There was also the risk of me running my mouth after one too many.

 

They split up a couple of months ago and he’s still none the wiser. He doesn’t want to cause any grief for his daughter so she’s kept the house, the car, everything, and he’s in a shared house with a lad he’s not too keen on. She’s apparently ramped it up and is meeting anyone with a dick and no shame.

 

Now I’m going out with him a lot more regularly and Mrs Turdseye doesn’t go round her house anymore. When slagface comes to ours Mrs Turdseye asks me to hover around so she doesn’t start banging on about her sex life.

 

The trouble is, I’m starting to think of him as a real mate. If that is the case, am I obliged to tell him? I’m not sure I trust myself not too at some point while I’m pissed.

 

Fuck mate, I'm not sure about that.  You sure he hasn't an inkling already? He'd have to be family or very close friend for me to get involved in that.  Hopefully she's told a few other people as well as your Mrs and they'll tell him

[Captain Turdseye]

He almost certainly knows.

You’d think so but I’m not sure.

[Juniper]

It’s a very tough one but I wouldn’t get involved, or be the one to let him know as he may take it out on you for knowing all this time and not saying anything until now, after they split up.

 

Sad that he doesn’t know but it’s not like you’ve found out under normal circumstances.

 

Saying that if I was in your shoes then I’m sure I’d be just as conflicted as to what to do.

 

Had a similar one recently, made friends with a girl from work and her husband. She had a handful of affairs (that I know for certain) when I worked with her. He’s been caught doing the dirty once with one person and she’s ended the marriage, dragging his name through the mud on social media.

 

Wouldn’t tell him but I do feel she’s been unfair to him and is pushing the blame everything on him when literally she’d sleep with any guy that showed her interest (I even had to reject her over the top advances more than once on nights out) I feel sorry for him as he’s a nice guy that’s made one bad mistake but it’s also none of my business at the same time.

 

I’d keep it to yourself, as hard as that is. If you tell him now he may take it out on you, if you reveal it later he may also.

 

Either way it’s a tricky situation if you see him as a mate more these days.

[AngryOfTuebrook]

It wasn’t too long before my bird was coming back telling me stories about the wife. She was apparently quite brazen about having four/five men on the go all the time. It properly shocked me. Not just because she was supposed to be happily married but also because she’s a big old unit and I wouldn’t go there if you paid me. They had a chalet on the coast and she’d go away regularly for some ‘alone time’ and she’d also have blokes round while he was at work. My bird didn't really want to know because the husband is sound and it put her in an awkward position but this woman just would not shut up about being rattled by blokes off the internet.

 

Her telling me put me in an awkward position also because for all I know while I was out on the ale with him she was getting shafted in the marital bed. There was also the risk of me running my mouth after one too many.

 

They split up a couple of months ago and he’s still none the wiser. He doesn’t want to cause any grief for his daughter so she’s kept the house, the car, everything, and he’s in a shared house with a lad he’s not too keen on. She’s apparently ramped it up and is meeting anyone with a dick and no shame.

 

 

 

I have. I wouldn't do it again. Probably.

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[Kevin D]

You’d think so but I’m not sure.

You said that his wife talks about her partners constantly, and that there has been more than one of them. That's a really bad combination for keeping a secret. He knows.

 

If he doesn't know, which I doubt, then you should tell him.

[TheBitch]

Yes I do but there are no lies with me. If I bang another I always inform my lover and that saves on carrying needless guilt baggage around. Leave it with her.

Offloading on your partner after blowing your load up a crumpled crotch. I dont believe in lies and I dont intend to live one. I learned the hard way fuck em but dont trust them. Call me a bastard Im honest ans if they didnt wanna hover around like the moon annoying the earth everytime you turn around. Fucking hell moon are you still here? So fuck loyalty. Cos loyalty is stagnant and bitches statistically prefer unloyal to toil in their coil. Lance her pussy like a boil.Thats your job. Dont let any of them have your babies under any circumcisionstances whatsonever. You are the child. Do not lose this mantle to some limp wristed writhing screamer with only half your dna making you grow up turfing out yor lovers fanny so it dont gfit no more and comandeering her tits. I cud go on but I think Ive made myself clear. This is the life I live.

beware of women they smile just with their eyes.

 

Come back, Den. 

All is forgiven.

[TheHowieLama]

You said that his wife talks about her partners constantly, and that there has been more than one of them. That's a really bad combination for keeping a secret. He knows.

 

If he doesn't know, which I doubt, then you should tell him.

 

He's gone, get over it

[Captain Turdseye]

She keeps posting on Facebook from a public common in a town about 20 minutes away, adding hashtags like never forget, don’t stop dreaming, etc.

 

Asked my missus why she’s always there and apparently that’s the last place she got walloped by some army fella who cut it off with her abruptly. Travelling all that way several times a week to reminisce about being boned in a field. It’s mental.

[RedKnight]

Are you sure it's not a dogging spot? Go check it out and report back.

[Champ]

Move house

[Captain Turdseye]

Are you sure it's not a dogging spot? Go check it out and report back.

I’ve been there a few times. I can’t see it being a dogging hotspot because the car park is pay & display.

[RedKnight]

I’ve been there a few times. I can’t see it being a dogging hotspot because the car park is pay & display.

 

After hours though? There'll be no attendant around then, unless they're into it.

[TheBitch]

Are you sure it's not a dogging spot? Go check it out and report back.

 

You should deffo do this.

[Anubis]

He knows, CT. He probably knew quite some time ago and that's why the marriage went under. If he gets comfortable enough, he'll probably confide in you about what she was doing and how she kept it from all their friends, like you.

[Fowler1972]

I’ve done it loads. That should be enough to confirm it’s a shit idea, brings nothing but misery and makes anyone who does it a complete cunt.

[Rico1304]

You should tell him, but if you can’t bring yourself to do it face to face maybe take out a full page ad in the paper or a

couple of bill boards. Glad to help.

[Aventus]

What about if your mates missus tries it on with you?

 

Not a close mate, and his bird cheated on her old boyfriend with him in the first place so she's got form for this kind of stuff.

I'm pretty certain she's getting slammed by a load of other blokes who won't have turned her down like I did.

[stringvest]

I’ve been there a few times. I can’t see it being a dogging hotspot because the car park is pay & display.

“Pay and display”

 

* snigger *

[Trumo]

She keeps posting on Facebook from a public common in a town about 20 minutes away, adding hashtags like never forget, don’t stop dreaming, etc.

 

Asked my missus why she’s always there and apparently that’s the last place she got walloped by some army fella who cut it off with her abruptly. Travelling all that way several times a week to reminisce about being boned in a field. It’s mental.

 

I had to read this twice to make sure 'she' and 'my missus' are not the same person.

[Paulie Dangerously]

I'm pretty sure he knows.  If she was conducting a discreet affair he might not, if she's blabbing to people she's known for 18 months that she's shagging loads of fellas it's sure to have got back to him, if she didn't tell him herself.

 

I wouldn't bring it up.

[Fowler1972]

I'm worse than that, I had a girl stripped and that then my conscience kicked in... What a fucking waste...

 

Oh and I then blabbed destroying the actual relationship I had...

That’s definitely worse. Did the time without doing the crime.

 

I’m done with all that shit now. It’s not worth it.

[Fowler1972]

That's the thing the old me would of been fine but something within changed... Odd

I hear that. Similar I think. I learned to love/respect my partner in a different way than I had before. She doesn’t deserve to be treated as shabbily as I have in the past. I feel like I owe her a lot. I’m not confessing my past sins though.